While On The Train: To Approach Or Not To Approach, That Is The Question

While On The Train: To Approach Or Not To Approach, That Is The Question

My friend Joe and I were discussing train flirting the other day. He had seen a really pretty girl on his way to work, and didn’t know if it was appropriate to say something to her.

While going back and forth about it, he came up with a really good line. If the girl got off at his stop, he’d say, “Listen, you really don’t have to stalk me. I’ll just give you my number.”

I totally loved the line, and I think she would have, too, but unfortunately she got off a stop before so it was no longer plausible.

I told him about my own train escapades and how I never knew if it was okay to sit next to a guy who smiled at me (with his eyes) and start talking to him. You never know if he was just staring because I had something on my face, or if he’s a serial killer, or if he’s just bored and heading home to his fiancé.

I mean, sure, you could sit next to them, strike up a conversation about the weather, and then tell your grandchildren the story 50 years from now. Can that happen? Possibly. Will that happen? Probably not. I'm going to go out on a limb and say you probably have a better chance of getting a pity nod from them, or worse, a frightened look and a not-so-subtle eye contact avoidance. Then you're left to sit there, contemplating whether or not you should shamefully get off at the next stop (even though it's not yours) and jump in front of the next train.

Joe and I decided it’s not the rejection that would hurt. It’s the PUBLIC rejection. If the person you get up the nerve to speak with (girl or guy) decides to be a jerk and hate on you, you literally have to sit in a train car full of people that just watched it happen.

Have you ever approached someone on a train? Were you successful or unsuccessful?

Keep on keepin' on,


*Read more at http://jenandmen.com/

Related Posts

I Was Told I Wasn't "Pretty" On A First Date

I can honestly say that I have been on some of the worst dates in the history of the world.  And, of course, I totally checked the history of the world before I made that claim to fame.  Today, I’m going to share one of my more treasured memories with you. You may want to sit down for this one.  Scratch that.  Grab your laptop, find a friggin’ bed and lay down.  Yeah, it’s that bad.   Read more >

Are You Dating a Man or a Mannequin?

Ah, the dating world. How often do we get attached to someone, break up with him/her, go through withdrawal, sometimes even depression, when all along we never really even knew them at all?It’s like we find what may as well be a mannequin, and fill our heads with what we believe that person should like. Let me know if this sounds familiar…Sees a photo of guy with his mother: Thought: He loves his family so much. When we get married, holidays will be so wonderful.   Read more >

Cheater Cheater Pumpkin Eater

I never thought I could feel such hostility towards a bunch a kids as I did the other day when we visited Santa's Village amusement park.  There was a Park District group in attendance.  The children all wore green shirts.   The place was pretty empty, so the lines were moving fairly quickly.Until the Green Shirts descended.Over and over, a Green Shirt would cut in line and then turn to convince other Green Shirts to join him.The first couple of times, I gave the kids a pass.   Read more >


In order to comment on BlogHer.com, you'll need to be logged in. You'll be given the option to log in or create an account when you publish your comment. If you do not log in or create an account, your comment will not be displayed.