When Anxiety is Worn as a Badge
Life creates angst. ~ We feel it in our body. We feel it in our thoughts. We feel it in our emotions. Stress , left unprocessed, destroys from the inside out, and it seems nobody is immune to it. Since there are very few of us, who live life away from society, or meditating in caves , the vast majority of us will encounter stress in our lives.How we process stress, will significantly add to our days with peace, or take peace away from us in our days, through stress.
Stressful , unexpected events do happen, and often there is little we can do except, accept the trauma, and deal with it.
But, how do we 'deal with it'?
As more of us work to reign in balance in our lives for ourselves and our families, we also find moments of overwhelm. Overwhelming feelings left unaddressed, accumulate. Now, the frantic pace of life that we have created is in hyperdrive, as we continue to add more to our days, eventually burning out our delicate wiring. ...stop the madness!!
Just because we can, doesn't mean we should.
Women today are dynamos. If I want a multitasker, I am asking a woman for help. In fact women seem to be best at managing many things except their stress. Why? Because we are programmed biologically to feel more, our intuitive awareness is naturally more attuned than the males analytical brain. We feel, they process. Now, we need to process our feelings and they in turn learn to process the emotions often blocked...interesting how we can learn from each other.
I saw a post the other day honoring Mental Health week.The post said : Panic attacks, anxiety and stress are not signs of weakness; they are signs of strength of trying to hold things together for so long....now, this got me thinking. Have we as women, begun to look at stress and anxiety and panic attacks as our badges of honor? Our badge of courage? Our purple heart? Have we as women looked at ourselves and accepted that a strong woman HAS to have some element of anxiety to be strong.To be valued. To be capable? To be busy enough? To be validated. Are we wearing our anxiety as a badge of honor? If so, rip it off your sleeve!!
Yes, as women we process much differently than our males partners. We feel a lot. Dear God do we feel, and those feelings can run amuck if we don't know how to manage our feelings and emotions. Emotions left unexamined, can manifest in unhealthy ways. We as women, have learned to balance emotional needs of our families with household needs of the home, with professional needs of our careers.Or have we? Do we even know what WE need?
Caretaking has been a woman's main role and main guilt throughout time. Even when we are doing it well, we struggle internally with what else is suffering, or what should we be doing instead. We accept stress as a fact of life, and we get so good at a chaotic pace of living, that we don't even realize the joys of life we sacrifice.
So, I ask you; have you accepted stress or anxiety as validation of your strength or capability of doing oh too much? Secretly do you revel in how wound up you are, because it makes you feel alive? Have you become a stress junkie addicted to the adrenaline buzz of hell and chaos? Dear God woman, stop the crazy!!
We can be capable and stress free. We can accomplish much, and only encounter moments of stress that come in to be tweaked. We can choose to look at things differently, putting perspective upon priorities. We can balance our days better. We can tend to our self care more. We can rest. We can honor our passions, our hobbies, our loves. We can love ourself enough to want to be whole, happy, and healthy. We can say no without guilt. We can learn a healthy selfishness , honoring self, nurturing self first so you are better for everyone else in your life. We can tune into nature as a calming natural salve, a meditative view to reflect upon. We can pray, decompress, meditate, ground ourselves,release through exercise, process with a therapist, schedule a massage, schedule a date with ourselves.
Finding out what we need first is key. Next is finding out our priorities and balancing the needs of those. Scheduling your down time, your play time, or your meditation time as if it is an important client; it is, it's you. You matter. You are important.You come first. Go ahead, take a mental health day , and figure out what is important to you.Say no to the things that no longer benefit you, and let go of the guilt. I am cheering you on!!