The truth about being pregnant & having a toddler
ou never really see any information about being how tough it is being pregnant with number two whilst your first is a toddler. It may be out there somewhere but you don't look for it because you're so wrapped up in your broody bubble that is until the morning sickness hits like a frying pan in the face which has built up speed from falling from space.
Trying to discretely chunder your way through the morning with out the toddler seeing because everything you read tells you that they will associate the sickness with the baby and that can be bad. Add to the mix your delightful toddler who senses that you have your guard down and will use this to their advantage breakfast for them may result in ice lollies, crisps, biscuits, sweets for the next couple of months. Anything to keep them quiet and from hanging off your leg as you race to the toilet desperately trying to hold it in.
You will be told, this is a good sign that everything is ok, how can anything about the above be good? You know they are right and buy more ice lollies, no wait you send anyone you can convince to buy more ice lollies because every time you step into the supermarket the smell hits you and you need to make a new world record to get the hell out of there.
You can't remember feeling this sick with no.1 so you are slightly scared that you have been chosen as the one in the family to bare twins. You are relived when the scan shows only one healthy baby but slightly disappointed that there wasn't two as you are starting to feel better.
The next few months whizz by and you forget that you are even pregnant until month six. In month six this protruding belly is reminding you that there is life inside and it's waiting to break free. You can't play with your child like you used to. You get back ache loading the dishwasher, washing machine and hovering and wonder how you will get to full term - you check that premature babies can survive if born this early and contempt hoping that it happens but decide that this is thought you shouldn't be having. The tiredness starts to creep back in and by 7 months you need match sticks to keep going till he toddlers bed time.
You may find yourself deadlocking the front door and sticking Curious George, Peppa pig or anything which is long with no ad breaks on the T.V. just so you can lay down and doze off while your toddler runs around causing havoc whilst trying to prise open your eyes with a chopstick they have helped themselves to but where from you don't even own chopsticks.
The floor is constantly covered in duplo, train tracks anything which causes maximum pain when stood on and is continually kicked around, the toddler will not play with these items they are his weapon of choice to a weaken mummy. Act now and put them on a high shelf!
You feel guilty for not spending enough quality time with the child and have work men round so vow to look like a good mummy but getting out the glitter glue and paints. You turn your back for a second and are covered in paint as your toddler couldn't wait and just needed to get the lid off the paint. The only way they know how is to squeeze it so you regret this decision.
You spend the next two hours in the bath with your toddler as they are happy splashing around and getting you wet all the while the water is helping with your back ache. Damn it then you realise that you can longer stay as your hands are looking like the prawns you want for dinner and you need to de wedge yourself.
You haven't got the energy to cook or deal with the toddlers constant nagging so you bribe him to get dressed so you can go to the chip shop.
You lay down for just a second after you say good night to your child and boom your asleep next woken by a foot in your face at 3am as your child climbs into your side of the bed making sure they dig their elbows and knees into every inch of your body. You needed a wee anyway so climb into the toddlers bed and manage another hour before its time to go to work.
Fear not though as once baby arrives it is actually a lot easier than you think it will be but you need to experience the above before you can face the new challenges of having a baby and an older child brings.