True Life: I'm An Introvert

True Life: I'm An Introvert

I'd be lying if I said I haven't been accused of not liking people or being shy. 

(Kyle said "you're not shy, you just mind your own business." True!)
Let me explain...

During college I had the opportunity to take the Myers Briggs assessment. I learned that I fall more on the introverted side of the personality trait continuum. [By learned I really mean confirmed.]

Here are my results: "INFP- Idealistic, loyal to their values and to people who are important to them. Want an external life that is congruent with their values. Curious, quick to see possibilities, can be catalysts for implementing ideas. Seek to understand people and to help them fulfill their potential. Adaptable, flexible and accepting unless a value is threatened."

I find this to be pretty spot on!

Generally speaking, an introvert is characterized by their internal focus. They don't usually gravitate toward external stimulation. Quiet and calm settings tend to be more ideal. 

Anyway, I thought it would be fun to explore a few trends surrounding more introverted personality types. 

Since, you know, it's hard for us to explain this shit to your face. ;)

// introvert does not mean shy : Sure, plenty of people are shy and that's completely fine. Shyness however does not explain introversion. Shy people avoid social situations out of anxiety/fear whereas introverts avoid social situations because, well, they want to.

// going out with friends is not relaxing : phew! There. I said it.  After an evening having dinner and drinks with friends I'M TIRED and need a break!  I really did have fun! BUT, I spend energy being social whereas most extroverts actually draw energy from social situations.

// the entertaining issue : Maybe you've noticed your introverted friend doesn't invite you to their house very often. This isn't because they don't like you or their house is ghetto---it's because they want the freedom to be "done" socializing on their own terms. It's really tough to get up and leave your own home once you've spent all of your social energy for the day...

// text messaging and emails are from the heavens : I know, I know Dad--"why don't you just pick up the phone and call?!" Having the freedom to respond when we're ready and socialize/connect with less pressure is SO NICE! I think introverts are probably the worst at screening phone calls, ducking and diving when we spot someone we know in public or pretending we aren't home when the doorbell rings. We need social prep time! And shoot, if I'm feelin' it I may just pick up the phone and call. ;)  But maybe later, k?

// the interactive audience : *cringe* I can think of very few things I enjoy less than a show where audience interaction is required. No, I don't want to talk in front of a large group of people for the sake of "flow" or engagement. UGH!

// constantly angry or sad : That look on our face... yeah, it's always like that. Nothing's wrong. Swear.

// confession : ok fine! Sometimes I'm just pretending to read a book or listen to music so everyone will just leave me alone.

// eating lunch or going to the movies : Sometimes it's nice to do these things... alone. It's not sad! We are really enjoying ourselves :)

I want to stress that I believe introversion/extroversion is not a cut and dry personality trait but rather as individuals we fall somewhere on a continuum. So, of course I'm speaking in generalities.

That's it for now!

For the record: At my core, I do love people, especially when I can help them!

Have you hugged an introvert today?

No? Good!

We appreciate it ;)


Marry Mint

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