PLUS SIZE AT 19.
As a 19 year old plus size woman, I have experienced so much prejudice and judgement I cannot begin to summarise it in just one blog entry. Thank God I came across this website and hopefully I can gain more insight on how to handle this diminishing experiences as they come along because something tells me there's still way more to come. While I have learnt to cope with the different treatment that comes along with being my size some things are just too much and if I do not share, I might just blow up and suffer from what I like to call "temporary insanity". I recently came across an article that said "Men like to profess their sexual fantasies to plus size women because they are likely to be more insecure(therefore an easy target) and therefore more willing to do what the men want them to do, because, apparently,they hardly get any advances. Furthermore, they are likely to be more frreaky in an effort to impress guys as a way of trying to cover up for their being big, or lack of sex appeal." This article bothered so much that I had to write something, at least to convince myself that I have gotten back at the author. I feel like the socie needs to understand that we can never be the same, it's a fact. some will be big, others will be small, others will be in the middle, it's diversity,it's a part of us. Now I'm not supporting being unhealthy...there's a difference. A big girl could be healthy because that is how her body was designed to be-the same way no one chose to be tall or short. But moving away from that, I would like to say that expecting bigger girls to be more insecure is insanity. Have I been told awful and offensive comments, even by people closest to me,simply because of my size? Yes. Did that make me insecure? Yes. But only for a while. Because I understood that no one is perfect and others have their own insecurities too, am not the only one internally suffering. With this discovery came a new wave of confidence within me. It is slow progress but still progress.I feel like i do not have to apologize for being who I am as long as I know am healthy. Articles like this that seem to stereotype bigger women according to an individual view certainly do not represent the turth. I know that few men would not describe a bigger woman as their version of "a perfect woman". This is unfortunate if you ask me, because they are neglecting a group of good, intelligent,wonderful and even sexy women fully capable of making them happy. Their loss. I tend to believe that this is because bigger women will not get approval from their friends as the "trophy woman". I hope they eventually realize that they won't marry their friends instead they will need to find a good wife. A good woman is a good woman regardless of her size. I think the sooner men realize that, the happier they'll be, it's sad that they get to this conclusion at an older age.