Parenting is Easy!

Parenting is Easy!

The heck you say! Parenting is hard, the kids need to eat 3 meals a day, have clean clothes, minds and bodies, be supervised so they aren't poking themselves or someone else with sharp objects and they need to be loved. Sound difficult? Imagine you have to do that for children that don't know what it's like to have a regular meal or whose clothes, minds and/or bodies are dirty, they have been hurt by others and they don't know what it's like to be loved and accepted by the people they trust the most. After you wrap your head around that, imagine that every few weeks or months, you get a different child(ren) and you need to start all over again. That's what it's like to be a Foster Parent. Your version of parenting suddenly seems easier, doesn't it?

An 18 month old boy is brought to your home with nothing but the clothes on his back. He can't walk or talk, still bottle feeds and doesn't know his own name. His little body has scabies, boils and MRSA scars. Three times per day you must soak him in a warm bath, lie him down and gently press the boils to drain the fluid the warm water has brought to the surface. For three months you lie awake with him at night because he cries and scratches his skin, even though it has healed. He hoards food in his mouth and sometimes eats until he vomits, he is starved for food. He is also starved for love, he needs you to hold him constantly. He needs to love and trust. After 4 months, it's time for the walking, talking, laughing boy to move to his adoptive family and your heart feels as though it will never heal. That was my experience as a foster parent. Doing it once was more difficult than I could have imagined, doing it for 30 years take an incredible couple.

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