Operation: FreeMom -- Let Go of SuperMom This Year

Operation: FreeMom -- Let Go of SuperMom This Year

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Yes. That’s me. At a friend’s wedding. She sent me this photo with the caption: “This is what happens when a mom gets out for a night without the kids!” I cracked up because it’s true, but I was sad because I don’t have this much fun very often. Being a mom can be hard. And I started thinking.

This is the thought I keep thinking: There is too much pressure to be SuperMom. Way too much. As moms, we have the ability to brag about every little thing we do with our kids (on Facebook, Pinterest, etc.). We tell the world these things so that we look like the BEST mom in the world to every other mom. But then there’s the other mom, and as the “other mom,” why do we feel like a piece of junk?

Now, I may be a little extreme here. Or I might just be putting words to feelings you might have, too. And I like to post stuff I do with my kids, too. But, what I’m talking about here is the FREEDOM to be who YOU are. I used to think I was crafty, but now I don’t have the time to be crafty ALL the time. I like my kids parties to have themes, but instead of a Pinterest-astic party with cupcake tags, swirly straws, and banners, the theme is usually “pizza.” And you know what? I get to enjoy the party and not obsess about the details, which often makes it a great party!

Am I the only one who thinks we need to stop comparing ourselves to other moms? Make beautiful things. Do amazing activities with your kids. Have rocking parties to celebrate your little ones. But, if they don’t turn out picture-perfect-pinterestable, IT’S OK.

Because, who is the party for anyway? Your kid… or other moms?

Don’t get me wrong. I am putting this out there because I STRUGGLE WITH IT. I see my kids doing something funny/awesome/silly/beautiful and I grab my phone to capture the moment, instead of just enjoying it with them and living in that moment. I like to post stuff that I think is awesome/beautiful/crazy because it is awesome/beautiful/crazy. I know I won’t get to do HALF of it, but that’s OK.

In summary:

  1. It’s OK to NOT be SuperMom
  2. Let’s quit comparing ourselves to other Moms

So, let’s ditch the capes! (Who is this SuperMom anyway? We might see her in a photo but I bet her kitchen outside the frame is still a mess.)

Join me on this adventure to Freedom, or FreeMomdom. I plan to post my own confessions and ideas to get past these struggles.

Where do you feel this struggle most? How do you feel pressure to be SuperMom? What do you do about it? I’ll add to my list and make sure we talk about it!

Let’s band together, choose to support and encourage, not compare and tear down. You in?

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