5 Lessons I Learned During My First Marriage

If only I knew then what I know now. But do I know it all now? No, but I have been a Marriage and Family Therapist for over 30 years. And perhaps more importantly, after a divorce, I have been married to a great guy for over 20 years. I married young and have learned things since then that would have made my life so much easier. I was in love and eager to start my life. You may be in the same situation and wonder what would make you feel safer to make the all-important promise about spending your life with someone you are attracted to now. ...more
Such great insight, especially "what happens when stress enters the picture." I find that it's ...more

Not Having Sex Made My Marriage Stronger

Marriage is made up of so many parts: companionship, comfort, kindness, patience, love, sex and understanding. Marriage is sickness and health and all the other trying promises we secretly hope our marriage will somehow escape. It’s making good on love when things feel scary and uncertain. ...more
Chronic vulvar/vaginal pain can be a sign of provoked vestibulodynia or vulvodynia.  Many women ...more

First Date Fiasco: He Expected Me To "Pitch" Him.

My first over-the-phone conversation with the lawyer should have set the red flags a-wavin'. He had a very specific list of rules for women he dated: ...more
What did the friend say afterwards.? Why did they set you up with him?more

Widowed at 27: I Still Leave the Porch Lights On For My First Husband

I still leave the porch light on for my dead husband, even after finding love a second time. ...more
None of us can put a timeline on grief, it is a great loss and our memories are still very much ...more

An Affair Strengthened My Marriage

It began as a typical Saturday night out with my closest women friends. But on that particular evening as we sat, laughed and talked in a popular New York restaurant, acquaintances were seated nearby celebrating their friend Alex's* birthday. They invited us to join their table for a toast, which turned into several. When the house music came on and everyone headed for the bar, Alex — handsome and playful — took my hand and led me to the dance floor. ...more
TerriLynnMerritts JoyPageManuel Don't be surprised to find some years down the road that your ...more

My Number of Sexual Partners Doesn't Matter. Here's Why.

My number has zero bearing on who I am as person, nor does it suggest anything about my morals. ...more
As a relationship expert many men tell me they only care what the woman knows about sex and are ...more

How to Make a Sex Tape

You know how it is. Let's be frank; outside of porn stars in a carefully choreographed scene, most of us don't look so pretty in a sex video (looking at you, Paris). Plus, it's awkward as hell. And here's the proof, broken down into 13 stages for your convenience. ...more

Will Having Sex Before a Big Game Help Your Chances of Winning? Maybe?

Well, it seems like our previous World Cup sex article was a bit premature. A new study is shutting down the debate on whether sex has an effect on a team's chances to win it all for their country. ...more

I Love Casual Sex!

I love casual sex. I've often thought that the sentiment would look very lovely on a t-shirt with a great big, red heart replacing the word "love," you know, like all those "I [heart] NY" t-shirts that you can get five of for $15 on Broadway. If it weren't for casual sex, I'd still be clueless as to what I enjoy and what I can do without. I'd probably still think "doggy style" is the stuff of kink and would have a lot less fodder for my work. Basically, my life would be the pits. OK, so that latter part might be an exaggeration. Emphasis on "might."...more
Looooooved it! (Well, back when I didn't have a partner to have (uncasual?) sex with) What I ...more

12 Hot Guys With Cats

Fall is here, which means it's time to put on a sweater and snuggle up to the one you love. And for a few lucky kitties, that means snuggling up to some very, very sexy gentlemen. We should all be so lucky! ...more