When I Get Married, I'm Going to Be a Submissive Wife

The word submissive is defined as: ready to conform to the authority or will of others; meekly obedient or passive. Wow, what woman wants to be described in this regard especially in the context of a relationship? I definitely don’t. I don’t know many who would. If I were talking about being submissive by this definition, there'd be a real problem. Good thing I’m not. ...more
I guess I just wonder why anyone has to be dominant, and the other submissive.  Why can't both ...more

Would You Try a BDSM Scene From '50 Shades of Grey'?

While many of my friends binge-read Fifty Shades of Grey, pausing long enough to cook up a box of organic mac and cheese for their kids’ dinner, up until now, I'd only managed a handful of pages before tears of laughter blurred out the words. I’m no stranger to erotica but James’ writing was too juvenile and cheesy for my taste. Or so I thought. ...more
Absolutely not.more

Five Reasons Not to Stay Together For the Sake of the Kids

It happens all the time. He's unfaithful. She needs to decide whether to leave him or stay for the sake of the kids. Marriage is not easy. But, as someone who lived through this as a kid, let me tell you this: staying for the sake of the kids is the WORST thing you can do for the kids. Here are five reasons why: ...more
I struggle with this. I separated from my wife for a year because we were both so unhappy and ...more

10 Reasons Why Single People Might Hate the Holidays

The holidays tend to be a pretty polarizing time: You either love them or you hate them. For so many there's the pressure of family get-togethers, big meals, and even bigger gifts. For others it's a magical time with snowglobe snow and an extra reason to spend time with your favorite people. I tend to swing between the two ends. One the one hand, I love Thanksgiving and Christmas. We spend it with one of my best friends and her family and no matter what we do we end up laughing until we cry and eating so much good food, stretchy pants are now a mandatory requirement. On the other hand, the holidays throw into sharp focus the fact that I’m alone. Every year I try very hard not to let that overshadow all the good, but it's still always there. ...more
I don't celebrate Christmas and it isn't for any religious reason. I have come to view Christmas ...more

The Other Woman Isn't Always a Bad Person

I'm not a bad person. In fact, I've been told that I'm a very nice person, maybe even too nice sometimes. I'm empathetic to a fault, I treat others with respect and I very rarely do anything without considering all of the possible consequences. ...more
10 years older. Manager. Already involved with someone else. Yeah, the majority of the blame ...more

5 Bad Bedroom Behaviors

Great sex is all about attitude, but a bad attitude is NOT welcome! As sex educators, we believe that anyone can have an amazing sex life. We dedicate our work to sharing the techniques and strategies that allow you to create a pleasurable, fulfilling sex life with the person you love. So, of course, we believe in negotiation, communication and compromise, in and out of the bedroom! ...more
Sometimes overstepping the boundaries is a surprise, which can definitely motivate a more ...more

Love Lessons Learned While Being Single with Cancer

I had cancer, I can tell you that, good or bad, people will show up in unexpected ways. You may receive love and kindness from someone you never imagined would show up, and people you had expectations for may not show up as you expected. People deal with trauma and sorrow differently, but you never know how they'll deal with it until you go through it. ...more
Aplus I'm so sorry to hear that you went through this. Thing is, everyone deals with suffering, ...more

15 Marriage Vows I Didn't Know I Should Make

Knowing what I know now, vows are important. They remind us to keep holding on or they raise red flags to aspects of a relationship that need some attention. But marriage vows tend to be lofty, idealistic promises dripping in romance or generic, one-size-fits-all covenants that leave no room for nuance or reality. They often don't reflect the real promises needed in a healthy partnership, which are different for each couple. If I were to do it again, I'd have a new set of vows to give but to also expect in return. Here are the vows I should've made on my wedding day:...more
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Dating Advice: Never Date Your Best Friend

Thanks to the countless "best friends turned lovers" movies—When Harry Met Sally, No Strings Attached, Just Friends—I started dating my best friend (now ex-boyfriend) with complete confidence. I mean, if Jim and Pam from The Office, who began their romance at a paper company, for crying out loud, could be soul mates, couldn't the relationship with my best guy friend work out, too? Nope. Hollywood clearly fooled me; not all relationships that blossom from friendship are destined to work out. ...more
The author Sherry Argov explains this phenomenon and what to do about it in her books: Why Men ...more

Infertility Issues: Give a Sperm Sample In a Parking Lot?

“Let’s just do it here,” I looked around the parking lot. ...more
Haha.  Poor hubby.  Such pressure!  Luckily we only live 10  minutes away from our fertility ...more