It's Over: I Had Sex with My Ex and Felt Nothing

After a breakup that almost destroyed me, I took to my bed for not just days but weeks. I wasn't just broken, but whatever is the next step worse than that, horrifically devastated, might be the most accurate explanation of the state of my mind and heart. As with anyone who's just experienced heartbreak, I was quite sure I wouldn't recover. ...more
Ha ha! That last time was when I knew that it was truly over. No more hurting over the break up, ...more

If You Don't Make Money, I Won't Date You

I ain't saying I'm a gold digger, but yes, you have to have a little gold. Let me give you a little context to explain my decision. When I was 19, I started my own very successful freelance writing business and by the age of 22, I dissolved it not only because of the economic downturn, but because I saw a more profitable career in Corporate America. Within three years, I was making six figures, flying across the country, buying stocks and working to earn a master’s degree - all while working full-time. I made good and bad choices financially, and twice, I’ve walked away from jobs, leaving me with no income streams. But divine intervention from God and my ability to get back in the game allowed me to recover each time, coming back more financially stable and resilient than before. I now find myself in another decently-senior position in a Fortune 500 company, writing this blog, sitting on important non-profit committees and attending high-profile parties in between. ...more
I think there's something to be said about the "checklist" that people look for in potential ...more

My Alcoholic Father Made Me A Better Mom

My father was hilarious and creative and the best friend that a guy with a truck stuck in a ditch at 4 am could have. He was intelligent and hard-working and the life of the party. He could strum a guitar and build a tree house and fix a satellite dish. He was a great friend and employee, and I thought he was a great father. It wasn't until I grew up that I realized he was a crappy dad and husband. ...more
Sure can. Adult daughter of an alcoholic dad here. What an amazing post about how that ...more

5 Lessons I Learned During My First Marriage

If only I knew then what I know now. But do I know it all now? No, but I have been a Marriage and Family Therapist for over 30 years. And perhaps more importantly, after a divorce, I have been married to a great guy for over 20 years. I married young and have learned things since then that would have made my life so much easier. I was in love and eager to start my life. You may be in the same situation and wonder what would make you feel safer to make the all-important promise about spending your life with someone you are attracted to now. ...more
This is a great list, number 1 really resonates with me the most, I esp love the quote: "If I ...more

Not Having Sex Made My Marriage Stronger

Marriage is made up of so many parts: companionship, comfort, kindness, patience, love, sex and understanding. Marriage is sickness and health and all the other trying promises we secretly hope our marriage will somehow escape. It’s making good on love when things feel scary and uncertain. ...more
Chronic vulvar/vaginal pain can be a sign of provoked vestibulodynia or vulvodynia.  Many women ...more

First Date Fiasco: He Expected Me To "Pitch" Him.

My first over-the-phone conversation with the lawyer should have set the red flags a-wavin'. He had a very specific list of rules for women he dated: ...more
I had a blind date ask me if I would ever be willing to have a threesome with a prostitute.more

Widowed at 27: I Still Leave the Porch Lights On For My First Husband

I still leave the porch light on for my dead husband, even after finding love a second time. ...more
None of us can put a timeline on grief, it is a great loss and our memories are still very much ...more

An Affair Strengthened My Marriage

It began as a typical Saturday night out with my closest women friends. But on that particular evening as we sat, laughed and talked in a popular New York restaurant, acquaintances were seated nearby celebrating their friend Alex's* birthday. They invited us to join their table for a toast, which turned into several. When the house music came on and everyone headed for the bar, Alex — handsome and playful — took my hand and led me to the dance floor. ...more
TerriLynnMerritts JoyPageManuel Don't be surprised to find some years down the road that your ...more

My Number of Sexual Partners Doesn't Matter. Here's Why.

My number has zero bearing on who I am as person, nor does it suggest anything about my morals. ...more
As a relationship expert many men tell me they only care what the woman knows about sex and are ...more

How to Make a Sex Tape

You know how it is. Let's be frank; outside of porn stars in a carefully choreographed scene, most of us don't look so pretty in a sex video (looking at you, Paris). Plus, it's awkward as hell. And here's the proof, broken down into 13 stages for your convenience. ...more