Five Reasons I'm Still Not a "Real" Adult

Almost two years ago I asked, "when do I become a 'real' adult?" That was pre-30s Tori who believed that maturity and adultiness were just around the corner. Welp... seems I might have been a little off with my time table. Less than two weeks Days away from hitting 31, I have empirical evidence that I am still faking this whole adult thing.I still need someone to tell me to put on a jacket...more

The Preemptive Rejection

I have been job hunting for a while now, and have had some interesting encounters. ...more

Marriage Epiphany Pt. 2: Preparation

 This was supposed to all be posted in one week and were meant to be more in-depth, but......more

My Marriage Epiphany (pt. 1)

Since spring/summer 2015 is shaping up to be the height of the wedding epidemic--as in "OMG, everyone is getting married!"--I thought this would be the perfect time to discuss some big things I've realized about marriage over the years. I've had a lot of thoughts and wishes in regards to what matrimony would mean for me. As I've gotten older I like to think that I've matured, and with that maturity has come clarity around what is one of the biggest transitions that a person ever faces. These aren't meant to be universal truths or things that I expect others to adhere to....more

An Indifferent God?

*This is a post I wrote almost three years ago, but I'm still asking the same questions, especially as of late*There’s never been a time in my life that I questioned the existence of God. Although as a child I was taught not to question anything I was told about God and the word, I find myself with more and more inquiries. I have, and still do, question the logic and truthfulness of some of the things in the Bible. And even though I practice Christianity I feel that all religions have their validity....more
ShantiOm  You're right, it's certainly complicated. Your point about free will got me ...more

Great Expectations... and Great Disappointments

Today I read about Rachel Gow, a woman who took her life because she was not where she thought she should have been...more
Never say never.  We don't know what's around the corner for us.   I appreciate your story ...more

I Think I'm Falling Out of Love With Scandal

I know this confession may make me a BBG (bad black girl) but I’ve got to get it off my chest. The hit show returns from its winter break in two days, but I’m not super excited like I have been in the past. This is a huge shift in my attitude towards the show, but then again the show has taken a huge shift in direction....more

Open Relationships & Respectability: Who Cares What Others Think?

It’s been a little over a year since I entered into my first non-traditional relationship.  In many aspects, it is much like the boilerplate, monogamous coupling that everyone is assumed to have. We make love, we fuss, we go out, we lay around the house in our undies threatening to fart on each other (everyone does that, right?). He and I are very “normal.” However, there are aspects that—while “normal” to us—would give others pause. I will admit, at times they give me pause too....more
Miss Pancakes  Thank you!more

My Biggest Fears as a Writer

I think no matter what you do, or how good you are at it, there is always a level of fear associated with it. Hopefully not enough to completely paralyze you, but enough to prevent you from just doing any old thing with the hopes that people accept it. When it comes to writing, I have a few fears....more

Being Broke Is Bringing Out My Green-Eyed Monster

It’s time to admit something that I’ve denied all my life: I am spoiled. More often than not I have gotten my way, especially when it comes to material things. When my parents weren’t outright giving me things (or money) they still enabled me to spoil myself by providing the roof over my head and food in my belly, free of charge....more
It really is humbling to experience this, as I am as well.  Just know that you're not alone, as ...more