Your Inner Detective

The biggest obstacle to most of my clients’ healing and recovery is their inability to understand and accept their feelings, and the emotional and behavioral clues that indicate where the problems lie. Most of us learn early that being too open with our feelings and thoughts is dangerous. It can lead to punishment, censure, ridicule, or hurt feelings. In some families, being open and honest about your feelings is like giving other family members ammunition to use against you....more

Dr. Romance on Attitude Adjustment

Dr. Romance writes:I have blogged before about emotional hygiene, and doing the necessary maintenance on feelings as well as your physical body and household. Health reminders tell us to wash our hands frequently to prevent transmittal of diseases. Did you know you can “wash” your mood, too, and give yourself an attitude adjustment whenever you want to?...more

Dear Dr. Romance: My son gets angry, throws things

Dear Dr. Romance:I am writing to you for your professional opinion regarding my 15 year old son. His behavior overall is good but when he gets angry he throws things swears a lot and just a few minutes ago destroyed my vacuum cleaner in one blow to the floor....more

Tapping Your “Inner Mentor” to Create New Meaning in Your Life

Sooner or later all of us question the meaning of life. The sooner we get to it, the better chance we have of finding a satisfactory answer. As a therapist I watch many of my clients pass through stages of personal growth. Once they work through the issues that have held them back, they often begin to ask...“What now?”—which prompts a desire to search for meaning. “It isn’t until you come to a spiritual understanding of who you are,” said Oprah Winfrey, “not necessarily a religious feeling, but deep down, the spirit within—that you can begin to take control.” ...more

Dr. Romance on Self-Reliance and Independence

"As the price of liberty is vigilance -- so the price of independence is self-determination, the price of dignity is self-assertion, and the price of respect is self-respect," wrote psychiatrist Dr. Thomas Szasz....more

Dr. Romance's Newest Ebook: The Real 13th Step

Dr. Romance announces The Real 13th Step:Discovering Confidence, Self-Reliance, and Independence Beyond the Twelve-Step ProgramsDear readers:...more

Learning Forgiveness

Learning to forgive those who hurt us is an essential life skill, because it helps develop inner maturity, frees us from emotional bondage to the other person, and helps us develop the power to move on. Forgiveness begins with learning to forgive yourself for any damage you may have done to yourself and others with destructive habits and for allowing others (beginning with your family, and including later adult relationships) to be unkind or abusive to you or take advantage of or disrespect you....more

Dear Dr. Romance: I am very confused and disillusioned

Dear Dr. Romance:I am a youthful and attractive woman, mid-fifties, who is so confused about online and ads for meeting men. i have been wounded by these men who, after some meetings with them and being promised by THEM that they want to take me for dinner within a few days,they set the time etc. and then BOOM, never do i hear from them again. also, even before meeting them, just via the phone, they ask me how thin i am, what my pension is, if i will have one and the like....more