Finding Kink Community

Since my acceptance of my submissive side, I have found myself looking for friends.  With the change in my relationships, it became harder to discuss my love life with the women I’d known for years. Although some difficulty was due to not feeling like explaining things like “sub-frenzy” or my frustrations with FetLife, more was just wanting to be in an environment where I could be my full self.  I went to my first munch at a bowling alley in Atlanta.  I met Dom(me)s and subs. Kinksters and fetishists....more

My Journey Towards Embracing My Submissive Side

It's been nerve-wracking, deciding to post this.  In an effort to write my truth, I took an unintended hiatus, mainly because I was trying to figure out what my truth actually is. Finally, however, I can say it without doubt, or fear: I am a submissive.  ...more
I would like to thank you for your courage and honesty!! Too many people in this world have the ...more

My 'Purity Ring' Helped Me Feel Empowered by Sex

I have a purity ring.I got it when I was nearly fifteen years old, accompanied by a lovely ceremony for which I wore a fluffy, beautiful white dress. After waltzing with my father and performing a dance as my talent, I, along with nine other girls, made a promise to not have sex until I was married.When I turned twenty, that promise was broken. I cried right after the “deed” was done, and my bewildered boyfriend had to console me. I felt like I had failed.  That feeling continued, along with the pleasure from having sex, and I felt conflicted....more
This is a very interesting perspective. I definitely understand the guilt that comes along with ...more

400 Days

A friend of mine just got deployed to Afghanistan. I am not quite sure how to feel. I have several friends who are in the military. None are quite like him. A guy I met in college one night while "studying" (a friend and I were actually dancing rather freely) in the student union, we formed an interesting bond.  We talked, and flirted, among other things, and eventually admitted we were more than friends. Yet, we were not together, and we occupied that gray area (much to my dismay) for quite some time....more

My Ex Hates It When I Write About Him

One of my exes hates that I talk about him, and because we've recently become friends again, I told him that I would restrict discussions about our relationship to my journal.Then I got to thinking...He and I dated some time ago, and after not speaking to me for over a year, he apologized, and we became "friends" again.  Months of checking up on each other, random conversations about future plans, and generally friendly things made me feel like everything with us was okay....more
I think Lisa Thomson wrote it PERFECTLY via Lamott, "If you don't want me writing things about ...more

40 Days of Singleness: There's Always That One Guy

There’s always that one guy who calls himself your friend, but never talks to you unless you initiate it.There’s always that one guy who says he likes you but he doesn’t talk to you unless he’s trying to screwThere’s always that one guy who says he loves you but he has a girlfriendThere’s always that one guy who treats you right, but doesn’t love you the way you need.There’s always that one guy whom you love, but you know you just aren’t readyThere’s always that one guy to whom you’re attracted, but you know he’s trouble....more

Day 8: Telling Mom..

Break ups suck. Informing my mother of breakups sucks more. *Backstory*...more

40 Days of Singleness: ....Awkward.

Day 7 I hate awkward conversations.  I always have to think of exactly what I’m going to say, or I ramble and get sidetracked. I had to have one the other day with #him. It felt awful, but it was necessary, and honestly, I’m glad I had it....more

40 Days of Singleness: Moving On?

You know, I began this as a moment to enjoy being single. That was my goal. I promise. Apparently, that is not meant to be the plan.  After revealing to my friend, who is more like a big brother, that I am single, he slipped a friend’s number.  We have talked almost every night since. I am loving it. He’s a genuinely good man, and I am learning to go with the flow and let him lead. Its refreshing....more

40 Days of Singleness: Let's Take a Trip

Day 5*packs bags*Well, I figured that the best way to have some fun while i’m single, and learning to experience life, even if i’m doing it alone, was to TRAVEL. So, for my first trip, I’m going to Houston!I chose Houston because I have SO many friends living there, and I really want to see them. PLUS its warm!...more