Standing Outside the Door: White Women's Responsibility to Renisha McBride

When I heard about Renisha McBride being shot and killed while seeking help after a car accident, my first reaction was grief. If it isn’t sad enough that this young woman lost her life, that her family lost her, it is infinitely sadder that she was lost in such a senseless incident. ...more
xeney I understand what race and gender mean in U.S. culture. Again, this has nothing to do with ...more

"Baby" Veronica Is Growing Up: ICWA, 2 Families, & Now an Arrest

After the Supreme Court decided against a biological father in the so-called “Baby Veronica” case two months ago, I found myself worried not just for the family in the case, but for adoption in general. Adoption is riddled with misunderstanding and the mainstream media tends to exacerbate the problem rather than clarifying. ...more
I have a story of unjust adoption. My niece was sold away by a family friend and neighbor that ...more

How White Women Can Be Better Allies With Black Men

In the days immediately following the George Zimmerman acquittal I was in a state of shock. I wasn’t alone. I was stuck home with children too young to take to after-bedtime demonstrations, so I sat in front of my computer and tweeted with like-minded, grieving, angry fellow travelers....more
this: "As a white woman, I feel a special responsibility (I almost wrote “culpability” and I’m ...more

Same-Sex Marriage Victory, Voting Rights Loss: My Roller Coaster

How am I to feel when the Supreme Court decides today that my partner and I could potentially be legally married, but my daughters—both Black—had their future voting rights threatened by the striking down of a key aspect of the 1965 Voting Rights Act yesterday?...more
@Rita Arens  @Nordette Adams In family law, this is the only area in which states can deny the ...more

Gay Marriage Bans Don't Help Children, or Society

In light of the Supreme Court reviewing Prop. 8 and DOMA this week, a personal realization has come to light: If you had asked me ten years ago if same-sex marriage mattered to me, my answer would have been, “meh.”In fact, at my extra-legal wedding, (ten years ago in June) that was my answer when someone asked me if my partner and I would be traveling to Canada to marry where it had recently become legal....more
@Hellz_Belle Awww... thanks! You are too kind.more

Flying While Something Other Than Whatever Bigots Think is Acceptable

Recently I got into a Twitter conversation with a friend who lives on the West Coast of the United States and is planning a cross-country road trip with her boyfriend.From couches they could crash along the way, the talk soon turned to race and safety.My friend is Black. And while most major U.S. cities have their minority-friendly zones, the vast spaces between those major cities can sometimes be questionably comfortable for non-white people....more
thank you for sharing this.  I know I as a white woman living in a very white area need to hear ...more

Lesbian Wife Wins Fort Bragg "Military Spouse of the Year"

This will necessarily be vague with some details changed. But back when I was a newly out lesbian, I dated a military officer who lived on a base. When I lost my housing due to a bad landlord incident (his bad, not mine!), my girlfriend and I decided to live together. It was during "Don't Ask, Don't Tell," and it was no fun for me, living a forced lie. So imagine my thrill when I read the news that this year, Fort Bragg chose Ashley Broadway, 15-year lesbian partner and co-mom to two small children with Lt. Col. Heather Mack, as the military spouse of the year....more
Beautiful article. Thank you for sharing your experience and this inspirational story! I knew ...more

The Five-Second Rule of Homeschooling: What About Socialization?

Ever since my partner and I decided that the private school our kids have attended for the past three years was beyond our budget for the indefinite future, and that we would homeschool for as long as we need to, I keep hearing the same thing: “What about socialization?”...more
I have homeschooled for over 21 years, run homeschool groups, and teach groups of homeschoolers. ...more

Gay Dads and Kids Terrorized in their Home

Felix Bermea and his partner, Roy, believe they are being targeted for being a minority family in the neighborhood. Bermea is concerned that the police have not acted with enough concern or speed in helping the family, and worries that authorities care less than they might if the situation involved a white, heterosexual family like the majority of their neighbors. While they wait for the police to stop what they call “terrorism” against their family, Bermea and his partner have become the focus of a campaign to at least get them a little vacation from the stress of the situation....more
 @jillicious We need to hear stuff like that to remember how far women have come, backlash or no ...more

The Defense of Marriage Act is Challenged, But Not Enough

[Editor's Note: On Thursday, a federal appeals court ruled the Defense of Marriage Act as unconstitutional. BlogHer Shannon LC Cate explains why - and what could happen in the future. --Grace]...more
@BlogHer ALL sexualities should have the SAME right to marry/parent. Thing is...negative ...more