When Did Being a Good Mom Turn Bad?

I remember the moment well. About four years ago I invited a little girl over to play with my kids. Her mom dropped her off and we chatted while the kids played. Then she told me she'd be back in an hour. About seven minutes later, apparently our basement full of toys became completely uninteresting, and three little people carrying a science experiment book confronted me. "Pleassssssse can we do something in this book? We won't make a mess," they begged. ...more
...great article...AND...teach your children about choices, kindness, diversity, timing...and ...more

5 Myths of Happy Marriages

At a recent party, I was telling a friend about my plans to celebrate my upcoming 15th wedding anniversary. “Fifteen years! Wow, but it’s no surprise. You guys have a great marriage and always seem so happy,” she said to me. “We totally are,” I said to her. “At least for today.”The conversation reminded me of a quote I saw once: “All marriages are happy. It’s the living together afterward that causes all the trouble.”...more
As a newlywed, thank you for this!  I've moved across  the country to be with my husband,and in ...more

When Your Friend Talks to You From the Grave on Facebook

The other night I was up late trying to finish a few blog posts and felt pretty defeated. I was disappointed with my drafts and basically just uninspired.I then tried to work on the young adult novel I wanted to pen, and instead I sat staring at a computer screen with 32 words on it. And they sucked. Every one of them....more
This is so sweet and touching and true. Self doubt is an ever present nemesis. I say we take our ...more

The Tale of Two (Almost) Identical Birth Stories

I read a lot of blogs. A lot. I think it’s a great way to “hone my craft” (I’ve always wanted to say that now that I’m part of the artistic community) and sometimes get inspired.And I’m a huge supporter of anyone who puts herself out there. As moms, sharing our stories is important, dare I say an essential, part of building a world where all women can stand together, hand in hand and say there is more that unites us than divides us (or is that all those mid-term advertisements talking?)...more

My Middle Finger Therapy

Normally I try to keep it clean and pretty positive on my blog, mainly because my mom reads all my work and I take her threats to wash my mouth out with a bar of soap pretty seriously; but every year, right around this time, I give a big, fat middle finger to a pediatric developmental therapist. Yep, that's the kind of girl I am...I send a telepathic middle finger to a woman who tries to help children.And yes, there's a little bit more to the story....more
It is so good that you are sharing your experiences, both positive and negative so that others ...more

How NOT to Raise a Bystander

Bullying. Mean girls. Aggressive behavior.It’s the terms du jour right now, and everyone has an opinion on it. Some parents think it is just part of life, and others believe it is crushing our kids.I think it just sucks.Unfortunately, I do think bullying and mean behavior will never go away; but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t stop trying....more

Top Five Signs You Have a Tween Girl in the House

The other day I hit the button to open the van door at school drop off, just as I have a million other times. I looked over my shoulder and called out, “Bye sweetheart! I love you!”My kind, loving daughter — the one who looks just like I did at age ten — jumped out of the van without glancing over her shoulder and endearingly responded, “Okay!”Um, “okay”? O.K.?How about okay, I’ll rip this dagger from my heart you little punk....more

It's Just a Dog...

“It’s just a dog,” my colleague said to me eleven years ago as I lamented about how my new puppy was home in her crate more than I wanted. “It’s not like it’s a baby. It will be fine.”She was the first, but certainly not the last person to say those words to me over the past decade. She was right. She was just a dog.Because she is just a dog, she always forgave me when I was running late, when I couldn’t spend as much time together because I had three small babies, when we moved her from the only house she knew....more
Karen Goodman It was much harder than I even imagined. Thanks so much for the kind words!more

Ten Things I Learned in a Decade of Parenting

My twins turn ten this weekend. That means I have a decade of experience in parenting. If I was building my resume, I’d say that makes me an industry expert....more

My Blogger Promise to my Friends

A few months back, when my blog was brand spanking new, I went to lunch with a friend. As I rolled in fashionably late, she told me, “I wanted to make sure I was on time…I didn’t want you to blog about your late friends!”I’m sure she was kidding. At least I think she was kidding.After that, I went on a very fun girls weekend. Let’s just say the words: “This better not end up on the blog!” were uttered more than a few times. And rightfully so. We have PTA mom reps to protect....more