The Words She Keeps

So, I wonder, when my daughter looks in the mirror, will she hear my voice saying she is beautiful on the inside and out, or will she choose to purge her last meal? When a young girl ostracizes her on social media, will her father’s words ring in her ears, reminding her of her strength, or will she choose to cut her skin to deal with the pain? When a boy pressures her to move forward too quickly, will she remember her worth or succumb to peer pressure? ...more

Dear Mermaids: Body Image is Not a Trend

I looked at the carefully posed photos of the gorgeous women who appeared in all colors, shapes and sizes, highlighting their beautiful bodies with captions of #mermaidthighs scripted underneath. It made me wonder: “Do my girls need to identify with a thigh trend to feel body confident? Can bodies even be a trend?” The post Dear Mermaids: Body Image is Not a Trend appeared first on Playdates on Fridays ....more

What Brock Turner's Release Means to Parents

Brock Turner gets released from jail Friday, September 2, 2016, after serving three months in Santa Clara County jail.For those of you not familiar, Mr. Turner, a scholar athlete and Olympic swimming hopeful, was convicted in March of three felony counts: assault with the intent to commit rape of an unconscious person, sexual penetration of an unconscious person and sexual penetration of an intoxicated person. He attacked a woman identified as drunk behind a garbage bin on the Stamford University campus in January 2015....more

What Brock Turner’s Release Means to Parents

We keep telling our girls that they can do anything and be anything, but the cold reality is they can’t. Women are constantly in sexual danger, and it limits our potential. Until we change the conversation from who gets raped to who commits rapes, the “Rape Culture” in our society lives on ....more

Cracked Eggs and Traffic Lights

I've been struggling lately. The way I parented my "little girls" does not seem to be working with my tween-agers. I've used every tool in my toolbox, and I often still come up short of feeling like I know what I'm doing ....more

Let’s Stop Saying It’s Jealousy

When we tell our daughters consistently that girls are jealous of them, we are perpetuating a stereotype we’ve lived for too long. While insecurity is still a major problem — and the main reason for the “Mommy Wars” — jealousy should not be the go-to excuse in our feminist toolbox. Instead, we need to teach our kids how to navigate difficult relationships and improve communication as opposed to merely writing off behavior as a jealous rage ....more

I Want You In My Village, But Not Too Much

I want the village in my kids’ lives. In fact, I need the village, and not just for car pools. I wish for female role models who work outside the home to interact with my girls on a regular basis, so they can know their potential is limitless; I want my kids to play with families where the dad stays home so they can see there are no pre-determined roles; I hope if my kids are doing something bad, someone will stand up to them to course correct if I’m not there; and I need people to be brave enough to tell me if my daughters get themselves in a dangerous situation ....more

Guest Post: Raising Kids, Raising Survivors

It’s not that I think she will always be this way. I know she will grow out of some of it. And it’s not that I fret that she is immature or overly dramatic ....more

Dear Dan Turner: You Are the Problem

Dear Mr. Turner,I bet if you and I broke bread and shared a bottle of wine, we’d have a lot in common.I’m a parent too, and I would love to hear how you raised such a gifted, smart athlete....more

Dan Turner: You Are the Problem

Decisions are made in moments, Mr. Turner. And that's why you are wrong ....more