It's Just a Dog...

“It’s just a dog,” my colleague said to me eleven years ago as I lamented about how my new puppy was home in her crate more than I wanted. “It’s not like it’s a baby. It will be fine.”She was the first, but certainly not the last person to say those words to me over the past decade. She was right. She was just a dog.Because she is just a dog, she always forgave me when I was running late, when I couldn’t spend as much time together because I had three small babies, when we moved her from the only house she knew....more
Karen Goodman It was much harder than I even imagined. Thanks so much for the kind words!more

Ten Things I Learned in a Decade of Parenting

My twins turn ten this weekend. That means I have a decade of experience in parenting. If I was building my resume, I’d say that makes me an industry expert....more

My Blogger Promise to my Friends

A few months back, when my blog was brand spanking new, I went to lunch with a friend. As I rolled in fashionably late, she told me, “I wanted to make sure I was on time…I didn’t want you to blog about your late friends!”I’m sure she was kidding. At least I think she was kidding.After that, I went on a very fun girls weekend. Let’s just say the words: “This better not end up on the blog!” were uttered more than a few times. And rightfully so. We have PTA mom reps to protect....more

5 BS Excuses Parents Make for Mean Girls

I talked to a friend of mine the other night who told me a heart wrenching story about how a group of 7th grade girls literally got up from a lunch table and moved when her daughter sat down at it. They certainly had a good reason to do it. After all, an 8th grade hottie asked her daughter to the dance and (gasp) she said yes. Unbeknownst to her the boy was verbally taken and off-limits. Yes, I know this sounds like Mean Girls, Part Deux but in fact it wasn't. It's just another day in a garden variety middle school in a small New York town....more

If Raising Kids Takes a Village, Why do I Feel Like I am On an Island?

It finally happened. My almost ten-year old asked me when she was going to get a cell phone.  Her exact words were: “I don’t have to have one right now, but I heard some of the kids in my class are getting one for their tenth birthdays, so I was just wondering.”Ugh....more
j.stunkard Great info. It is scary, but I do know I have to "trust with guidance". Thanks so ...more

5 Questions Moms of Girls Should Be Prepared to Answer

Parenting is all about preparation. As long as you realize you'll never be fully prepared. When kids are younger, preparation means making sure you can survive a two-hour trip out of your house. For me, that consisted of 14 diapers, seven bags of goldfish, three extra outfits, every first aid component ever made, toys, books, mats, drink boxes, and a protein bar. My family could survive days on a desert island if needed. ...more
You are spot on - keeping communications open is so important! I always tell my kids that I will ...more

Dear Barbie, Breaking Up is Hard to Do

Dear Barbie,Break ups are never easy, and this one is really tough. Seeing your blue eyes for the last time as I snapped the Rubber Maid lid on your resting place made me feel pretty bummed. I’m really going to miss you....more

When our Parenting Insecurities Get the Best of Us

I was recently on the soccer fields waiting to pick up my daughters when a mom started chatting with me. She asked who my children were, and after I pointed them out she excitedly told me how great my daughters and the other two girls in the group were doing with the larger group of boys. I then of course asked who her son was and as soon as she pointed him out she began to ramble  on about how he wasn’t having a good practice today and they weren’t sure if soccer was his thing and he had a growth spurt recently so he wasn’t as coordinated as the other boys and he wasn’t as fast....more

Top 5 Worst Times to Be a Mom of Multiples

A fellow mom of multiples and I were chatting the other day about how people still think we have our hands full because we have twins; but in our minds, once your kids get a little older, it's no different from any family having two children close together.And I would even argue that sometimes having two is even easier than having one. Constant playmates, more offers of help, and constant playmates (did I say that twice?) are just some of the bonuses of having your children in pairs (or triplets) as opposed to one....more
I loved your post! I am the mom of identical twin boys and two girls. My oldest daughter was two ...more

When We Turn our Grief into Gratitude

I believe the true measure of a person is determined by how she acts when faced with adversity. I am constantly amazed by my friends and family who have so gracefully handled seemingly insurmountable obstacles with such incredible grace and compassion — both in their lives, and in the worst of times, when there is death....more