30 Reasons Moms Like Wine

Have you noticed all the Moms on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and Social Media sites alike sharing their pictures of wine in their glass? Even better, their half full ( because I like to keep things positive ) bottle on the counter after a long hard day. If you haven't, it may be because you were knee deep in your very own bottle....more
Preach it sister! I really love the tampon one. My toddler LOVES to play with mine. I find them ...more

Get Ready for 1000 Voices to Speak for Compassion

Here it is, one of the main reason's I wanted to blog so badly, plus I kind of just need to speak my mind and all my friend's and family stopped listening. Nah ......more
themomcafe I agree, can't wait to see where this goes!more

Twice a Week and Every Second Weekend

 Each week since I separated from my husband ( now Ex ) almost nine years ago, my children have spent one night a week and every second weekend at their Dad's. My Ex and I carefully executed this plan and were very amicable ( still are ), especially when it came to our kids. The two of us are very easy going when it comes to being flexible with schedules and have never had much of a problem changing days or helping one another out. So here is the thing, I am finding it harder and harder when they leave for a weekend. I miss them tremendously.As they get older I, have much less time with them than I did when they were younger and needed me so much. If they aren't at their friend's house, then they are with a friend, at a sporting event, doing homework, singing at the top of her lungs in her bedroom, playing video games. You know the drill. Don't get me wrong. I am happy to be raising independent children, and hopefully I am teaching them all they need to grow up and be independent adults, but that does not stop my heart from missing them....more
That's a tough one. I totally feel you on the missing them more as they get older. I feel like ...more

An Open Letter to the People that Inspired me to have Faith in Myself again. 

Sadly, my rose colored glasses were covered with negativity, sadness and self-loathing this past year. I have since wiped them clean and am back on track to seeing the beauty in each moment given to me. Not always an easy task when you feel inundated with negativity, heartbreak or the repercussions of one's mistakes. Once you are in a negative space, it can be very difficult to find your way out of it, and I found myself drowning in it. I am grateful for all I have learned about myself whilst dealing with said depression and negativity. It has given me a fresh look at the way I see the world .. the way I see my world. Not only have I realized that it is our darkest hours and through adversity that we find our strengths but maybe even our purpose. In doing so, I found inspiration not only in myself but many others. I have learned to let go of the people that will not serve me to be a better human being, and will no longer find time to wrap myself up in it. I will only find time for good, I will welcome it! ...more

Hey Family, Listen! I am a person too! 

As I put dinner on the table tonight, I felt angry. I wasn't my usual jovial self. BAHHHH! Ok, time to give you the straight goods. Jovial is not a characteristic I would use to describe myself at the end of the day, um ee Errr wait, probably any day..  I absolutely love cooking, but I am not a fan of having to cook, like a slave.( I mean that in the most PC way possible, please don't send me hate mail)  Are you picking up what I am throwing down?  My love language is the absolute servient type. I wait on my family's  needs hand and foot, but I do need affirmation, it's just how I roll. So when I cook for you, please say Thank you! As of late I have noticed that maybe they don't see all my hard work.  Wait, who am I kidding this isn't an as of late thing. It is an I have done it since the beginning of time thing and why the hell would they want that changed type of thing. Ok, Back to the matter at hand ( that may be 90's music lyrics I am not sure). Tonight I felt angry, I mean come on family didn't you notice all the hard work I was doing while you were all so involved in your personal stuff? Didn't you see me chopping the veggies and making that sauce? Meanwhile thinking of the load of laundry, you so desperately needed done before morning, and by the way multitasking the shit out of that! NO!!! They were too busy playing their video games or catching up on their Facebook chat (after they had done their homework, of course, might I add, in which I helped them). With an extremely pouty face and a childlike sigh, I am telling you I want that also ( insert stamping of my feet). I want them to see me as a real person with real needs, but they still keep calling me MOM or BABE!!!! It's maddening! My name is Darla, and I want to play Candy Crush also!!!! Ok, I am sure you get the point! P.S. I did exclaim this was going to be childlike. ...more

The Worst Advice We've Ever Heard about Women

Women: fickle, emotional, feisty, bitchy, bubbly, pushy, sassy, headstrong, hormonal, high-strung, ditzy, catty. These are just some of the words that are only used to describe women. Good or bad they are out there, and quite honestly if we as women want them gone, we have to work at it, not just complain about it. Most importantly we have to stop using them to describe one another.  I will say that it is unfair and downright rude being described as bitchy, I mean really the word is derived from the meaning of a female dog, it is one of my least favorite words....more

Tips on Making Your Christmas Memorable without Breaking the Bank

Christmas, the most wonderful time of the year! Well, it can be, but it can also be the most stressful time of the year if you aren't in a position to spend any money. This past year has been a tough one on our family; we have had losses of jobs, which has lead to overdue bills and concerns of getting food on the table some months. Luckily we have had the help of family to get us through these tough times. Then November came, and the looming thoughts of Christmas and all its expenses started weighing heavy on my mind....more

An Open letter to my 4 year old self #Rapecultureiswhen

Too many children have been or are in  the position of being molested in our country. It is a sad state of affairs, yes a lot of it has to do with the way our society perceives women and how we perceive ourselves. As a little girl that has been in this situation, none of that matters at the time, but it needs to change. What matters is that we build our little girls up. So not to fear opening up about it, to not fear saying NO! ...more

Do All Men Hate Grocery Shopping? A trip to Costco with Ryan

Me, with my list in hand, and him with his fueled hatred for grocery shopping, we enter the world of Costco. As I flash my Costco card at the entrance, I glance over at Ryan, I see his face growing pale and clammy. "Come on babe" I reach my hand out to grab his. I am waiting for it; his over exaggerated body language and pointed sighs. He wants me to know that he is here under protest. "Just make the best of it, try and have fun," I tell him. He lets out an inflated groan as we move into the store....more

Do All Men Hate Grocery Shopping? A trip to Costco with Ryan

Me, with my list in hand, and him with his fueled hatred for grocery shopping, we enter the world of Costco. As I flash my Costco card at the entrance, I glance over at Ryan, I see his face growing pale and clammy. "Come on babe" I reach my hand out to grab his. I am waiting for it; his over exaggerated body language and pointed sighs. He wants me to know that he is here under protest. "Just make the best of it, try and have fun," I tell him. He lets out an inflated groan as we move into the store. He hates being here, and he is going to pull out every tactic he knows to prove it to me. I am excited; I love Costco, and I am going to go through every isle, he knows it too, and it is written all over his face. He is pushing the buggy, which, by the way, is tactic number one. As I reach out to grab something off the shelf the buggy lightly touches my hip. "Oh, sorry babe. I was looking at food that we actually need. I didn't see you there". Then a quick subject change "We should go that, way," as he points to the cheese section ( his favorite section by the way ). At the cheese section, Ryan is taken over by something, it is a strange force that takes over his whole entire body. I notice that he isn't comparing size, weight or even looking at the price, his only concern is the age of the cheese. Note: The only time this occurs is when he is standing in any cheese section, the force is strong! Tactic number two: Without even noticing and as, I am grabbing a huge 20lb bag of flour to put in the cart, him and the cart have disappeared! I spot him now riding the cart like a 9-year-old boy up and down the isle. "Ryan!" I grunt out, mostly because I am holding a 20lb bag of floor. Here is where he gets super charming and gives me the puppy dog eyes, "What?, I am just trying to have fun, you told me to try and have fun." It comes out of his mouth with a little too much charm sometimes. I am still holding the bag of flour. He now sulks his way over to me, leaving the cart far enough away that I have to walk over to put it in, just to make his point. We have only been in the store for 5 minutes. ...more