I Wish I'd Never Told Her To Hurry

She turned sixteen yesterday. She's no longer the sweet chubby-faced baby I knew so well. I knew every inch of her, in the knowing way of mothers, from the curls that swooped around her curving ears to her fat little toes I kissed each morning. I knew her quirks and her desires, how she liked her oatmeal and how her brother made her squeal. She made me beam with just her existence. And her face would light up like a mirror of mine when she saw me. ...more
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The Day I Heard Her Dad Tell Her, "Not Bad for a Girl"

"Not bad for a girl." It made me cringe from the top of my head down the tips of my blue-painted toenails. Words spoken by a father to his little girl about her belt promotion in karate. It wasn't meant to be mean. He was just kidding. It was their little inside joke. He couldn't be prouder, actually. But he still said the words. And she still heard them. ...more
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Medically Sanctioned Rape in the Labor and Delivery Room

*Trigger Warning* (May be difficult for some readers who have experienced sexual assault or trauma in childbirth.) When women get together (especially at baby showers) they share war stories. It's impossible not to hear about preeclampsia or emergency c-sections or epidurals that didn't work.  Telling expecting mothers about all of the horrors and dangers of childbirth seems to make women almost giddy.  But like soldiers from real-world battlefields, it's a way women bond and attempt to validate their often nightmarish experiences. ...more

Why the Italian Domestic Violence PSA is Stupid

"What happens when you put a boy in front of a girl and ask him to slap her?"Italian website, Fanpage.it attempts to answer this question in their "stirring" PSA-gone-viral against domestic violence.You can watch the video here, but if you're lazy (like me) here's the Cliff's Notes version:...more

8 Perks To Not Having A Smart Phone

I don't have a cell phone.  Not because they are expensive or I can't afford one or anything like that. I'm a conscientious objector.Even though it drives my friends and family and co-workers bonkers because I can't always be easily reached or respond to messages in 2.8 seconds or instantly post pictures of what I ate for lunch (a chicken salad sandwich... in case you were wondering), I still refuse to have one. ...more

Don't Make Me Come In There

I hear you in there, sweet children of mine.  It started out as goofy giggling and escalated from there.  The tone has turned from one of amusement to irritation.  I sometimes wonder if you can get along with one another for ten minutes straight. ...more

The Plight of My Youngest Child (Or Why I Am A Horrible Mother)

Some days I feel like I've got things pretty under control. On those days that the children mostly got along with one another, and the laundry is mostly washed and mostly folded (if not mostly put away) and I've prepared a dinner that is mostly nutritious and mostly homemade, and we've all sat down together to mostly enjoy one another's company... I feel pretty good about myself. ...more
JillianT.O'Keefe I felt the same way about my first born. Somehow my heart just made more room ...more

A Public Apology To Smartphone Users

While I have been quick to point out the many perks of NOT having a smart phone, I now realize that I haven't adequately acknowledged how very demanding life with a smart phone can be. I tip my hat to you smart phone users. I've been walking around boasting about the facility of my cellphone-free lifestyle without completely understanding all of the hard work you guys put in on a daily basis. For instance, I woke up yesterday, stretched, and groaned about needing coffee. Then just threw back the covers and staggered toward the kitchen for caffeine. ...more

Lying Little Girls Dropping F-Bombs Keep Feminism On The Fringe

FCKH8, a T-shirt sales company masquerading as an anti-hate activist group, is pretty freakin' good at using shock value and expletives to grab people's attention.  First, it was their race-y (pun intended) video featuring Ferguson, MO youngsters throwing around some major attitude about race relations in their "Hey White People!" video....more

Forced To Volunteer - Public School-Sponsored Chain Gangs

It's not overly difficult to draw parallels between government-funded public school and government-funded prison. Both are compulsory. Both are plagued with over-crowding as a result of poor public policy. Both are expensive to taxpayers. Both are institutions frequently ruled by internal violence and fear. Both screen entrants with metal detectors and have weapons bans. Both give their occupants little choice in how they spend their time. ...more
reillysmom16 That is a good point.  Who gets to decide what opportunities make it to the list? ...more