"He's Not the Sun": Cristina Yang and Barbara Walters' Last Message to Women about Having it All

Sandra Oh has left Grey's Anatomy, and frankly, now that she's gone, there is no other reason to watch the show. For me, she was the show, and for the past nine years, I only tuned in to watch how her character, Cristina Yang, would break yet another stereotype, yet another normative female behavior. And she never failed me....more
Tracy Gibb  You're right about that, Tracy. It's a challenge on both sides. Thanks for commenting.more

5 Gifts a Feminist Wants for Christmas

There are only 5 things this feminist wants for Christmas, and they are not monetary, vain, or tangible. They are wishes and hopes and desires that I find are missing in society. They are necessary for the enlightenment and empowerment of our girls and women, and I consider them "gifts" because they need to be given from a place of goodness and mutual respect....more

Bloomberg's War on Moms

Mayor Bloomberg showed his usurpation of power and lack of common sense when he banned soda for the good of the people....more
Oh and I want to add that I agree with soooo much of what you said. I am angry about 90% of the ...more

A Woman in Decades

I turn forty on a Wednesday, and for me this is a long-awaited day. I have wanted to be forty since I was in my twenties. Why? Because the idea of turning forty is ripe with a sense of true womanhood. You are not a woman, not really, until you are forty. Everything before forty is trite, experimental, and full of the work that will bring you the fruits of forty. ...more
@LucindaA Lucinda, I am going to revel in my 40's before I start thinking about my 50s. But I do ...more

The Messages We Give Girls about Beauty

I have called my son “beautiful” and “gorgeous” all his life. He’s beautiful inside and out, and I never thought twice about using these words with him. But now that I have a little girl, I find myself calling her beautiful and then following it with “and so smart.” And now that she walks around in her dresses and twirls her little body in a circle in front of the mirror, and says, “I’m beautiful,” I’m not sure what to make of it. ...more

Your response is very sweet and warms me. Most of the time, I think I'mm bungling this mom ...more

International Women's Day Awareness

Today is March 8 -- the 100th International Women's Day and the web is full of amazing sites focused on ...more

On Shaving: It's MY Body

I hate shaving. But society tells me that I am repulsive to the visual senses of humanity if my female body is strewn with naturally grown hair. I was treated with repulsion as early as twelve from a group of girls in a New Jersey sleep over camp run by strict Catholic nuns. Diving into the pool in my modest and second-hand one-piece suit, a bunch of girls started laughing at me. They came up to me, jeering, and pointing to the hair that had just begun to grow under my arms. I felt ashamed, and I blamed (yes, you guessed it) my mother for refusing to teach me how to shave my arm pits and legs. ...more
I have a small quibble with an otherwise great article-- "And when I told her that I shaved ...more

Valentine's Day Activism

I just wrote an article about how various organizations are using Valentine's Day to create awareness and get people involved in some true-good activism. This got me thinking: what can I do, other than write about it?...more

Gregory House, MD, and Empowering Lessons Women Can Learn From Him

Every week I tune in to watch Hugh Laurie in House, and I embrace his guts, his brilliance, and even his obnoxious attitude. Gregory House is your typical asocial curmudgeon, but we love him anyway, sometimes against our own will, because he is the kind of person we all wish we could be. He is smart, rude, arrogant, and he says what everyone wishes they had the guts to say....more