5 Empowering Gifts for Girls

The older my daughter gets, the harder it is to find just the right Christmas presents for her. At seven, she's done with Princesses, done with Barbie, and done with Polly Pockets. What else is there? I've bought her books, learning apps she can play on my phone, and clothes galore. So this Christmas, as I grapple with what to buy her, I started thinking that the best presents for my daughter are not material, tangible, or store-bought....more

5 Feminist Books For Which To Be Thankful

As Thanksgiving Day approaches, I am thankful for a lot things: my husband, my children, my job, and my friends. But one thing I am always -- every day -- grateful for is books. Up until my adoption-- at the age of eight -- I had not known books or the stories that lay in wait for me when I turned the pages. But as an immigrant in the US in the early 80s, books are what saved me from isolation and disconnectedness. Here are my favorite books -- books that have taught me to be brave and what it means to be empowered....more

"He's Not the Sun": Cristina Yang and Barbara Walters' Last Message to Women about Having it All

Sandra Oh has left Grey's Anatomy, and frankly, now that she's gone, there is no other reason to watch the show. For me, she was the show, and for the past nine years, I only tuned in to watch how her character, Cristina Yang, would break yet another stereotype, yet another normative female behavior. And she never failed me....more
Tracy Gibb  You're right about that, Tracy. It's a challenge on both sides. Thanks for commenting.more

5 Gifts a Feminist Wants for Christmas

There are only 5 things this feminist wants for Christmas, and they are not monetary, vain, or tangible. They are wishes and hopes and desires that I find are missing in society. They are necessary for the enlightenment and empowerment of our girls and women, and I consider them "gifts" because they need to be given from a place of goodness and mutual respect....more

Bloomberg's War on Moms

Mayor Bloomberg showed his usurpation of power and lack of common sense when he banned soda for the good of the people....more
Oh and I want to add that I agree with soooo much of what you said. I am angry about 90% of the ...more

A Woman in Decades

I turn forty on a Wednesday, and for me this is a long-awaited day. I have wanted to be forty since I was in my twenties. Why? Because the idea of turning forty is ripe with a sense of true womanhood. You are not a woman, not really, until you are forty. Everything before forty is trite, experimental, and full of the work that will bring you the fruits of forty. ...more
@LucindaA Lucinda, I am going to revel in my 40's before I start thinking about my 50s. But I do ...more

The Messages We Give Girls about Beauty

I have called my son “beautiful” and “gorgeous” all his life. He’s beautiful inside and out, and I never thought twice about using these words with him. But now that I have a little girl, I find myself calling her beautiful and then following it with “and so smart.” And now that she walks around in her dresses and twirls her little body in a circle in front of the mirror, and says, “I’m beautiful,” I’m not sure what to make of it. ...more

Your response is very sweet and warms me. Most of the time, I think I'mm bungling this mom ...more

International Women's Day Awareness

Today is March 8 -- the 100th International Women's Day and the web is full of amazing sites focused on ...more

On Shaving: It's MY Body

I hate shaving. But society tells me that I am repulsive to the visual senses of humanity if my female body is strewn with naturally grown hair. I was treated with repulsion as early as twelve from a group of girls in a New Jersey sleep over camp run by strict Catholic nuns. Diving into the pool in my modest and second-hand one-piece suit, a bunch of girls started laughing at me. They came up to me, jeering, and pointing to the hair that had just begun to grow under my arms. I felt ashamed, and I blamed (yes, you guessed it) my mother for refusing to teach me how to shave my arm pits and legs. ...more
I found this post as it popped up in the "similar" category under my NaBloPoMo post today.  My ...more