Real Men. More Suicide. What Will It Take For Men To Seek Help?

"He's killing himself".With work. With guilt. With alcohol. We have all described it. Watched it.Now, in the last decade, men are literally committing suicide. In record numbers.I am tired of it for them. For our culture. For our world.If men could admit more easily that they are depressed. Or ashamed. Addicted. Lonely. Angry. Or in trouble.Tired of it because it's so incredibly sad for them. Tired because there are spouses, parents, friends and children who are left behind. Who loved these men....more
I would be so grateful if those of you who read this post can ask the men in your life to fill ...more

A Message To The Princeton Mom About Date Rape

Somehow the Princeton Mom was not on my radar.Until I recently googled her. Real name is Susan Patton.She touts the return of 1950's thinking about women. College being about catching a man to marry.I wasn't all that affected by what she said.  She could have her opinion. After all, I remember the book by Marabel Morgan about how women should wrap themselves in Saran Wrap before their husbands come home from work. That was popular for a while.Never caught on at my house....more

The Surprising Gift That Blogging Gave Me

December 17th.  The date my official blogging began. Two years ago.I have tweeted and pinned. Embedded and pluggedin.  Discovered an addiction to the word "just".My husband thinks my laptop is superglued to my thighs. My dog has become accustomed to my padding past his bed at 5:00 am. If he joins me, belatedly, his gaze reflects the same question. "Why are we getting up when it's still dark?"....more

3 Tips For Coping With Grief At The Holidays

It's hard to describe.It's bad enough that someone dies.  Especially if they are young.When it occurs during the holiday season, all the jingling bells and fa-la-la-la-las are a crude backdrop for pain.  The stark emptiness of loss throbs through your veins.  You can barely breathe....more

12 Things Marriage Is and 12 Things It Is Not

24 years of marriage.That's what October 15th meant for me....more

Empty Nesting Season: Letting Go A Little At A Time

They say things come in 3's.My son left for college again last weekend.He was home 2 days between summer job and college.  No need for us to drive him this year.  He was taking his Jeep.  "There would be guys to help"....more

The Warmth of Freedom

Communist Romania.  July 4th, 1976.The same year that Nadia Comaneci won the Olympic gold medal for Romania and scored the 1st perfect 10.I, along with 35 other sweaty college choir members, was singing the National Anthem in the middle of a very warm, unairconditioned hotel lobby in that country.Tears welling up in my eyes like never before....more

The Joy In Every Wedding

When you see true joy, you can feel it.Sometimes it is in a child's gushing laugh during some wondrous adventure.  Sometimes in an airport on a stranger's face as they race to embrace their soldier husband or wife.  Mom or Dad.It is palpable.  It changes something in the air around you.It's wedding season.  You are going to hear lots of wedding stories.  Some funny.  Some poignant or moving.We visited 2 friends last weekend.  They have been together 24 years.  Same as me and my husband....more

3 Steps Out Of Your Hidden Depression

I have been writing about hidden depression.The person who no one would suspect, behind those smiling eyes and cheerful, "Good morning!" was thinking of driving off the road.  If it weren't for her kids. Or his family.What a horrible way to live....more

How Maya Angelou Touched My LIfe. My Gratitude.

Maya Angelou spoke at Bill Clinton's Inauguration in 1993 as Poet Laureate.  There was just something about this soft-spoken woman woman that riveted me to the TV screen.I  knew her voice was going to be important for me....more