5 Minutes With 5 Products: Your New Lazy Everyday Makeup

I don’t know about you, but when I wear everyday makeup, I want it to take as little time as possible. I’m a master of trying to figure out shortcuts to my beauty routine just so I can spend five more minutes in bed (it makes a difference when it’s like 8 a.m.)....more

On Having a "Bad Attitude"

Hello my sisters in snark, my colleagues in curtness, my friends who are frank and my associates in assertiveness: Today we salute you.You, who so boldly and decisively refuse to stand for bullshit. You, who do not cower; you who do not yield. You who most likely suffer from moderate to severe resting bitch face.Like you, I have been told at times that I have a bad attitude problem....more

Being Scared Of Life After College Is Dumb And This Is Why

Here’s my ideal happy ending with college: Hi, I’m Ella, I’m graduating and I know exactly where I’m going with my life. I’ve made it through my student loans and look at me say this while I flip my hair at you with my perfectly-painted-never-chipped-nails-because-I am-just-hashtag-flawless.Yes, that is what would happen to me if unicorns were real, if fish could ride bicycles, and if I were Beyoncé (yes I know she has the same hours in a day as we do but I’ve decided she’s a robot)....more

Fourth-Wave Feminism Can't Play Favorites

A few weeks past, news sources everywhere were aflutter with new information pertaining to the “Palin family brawl” that reportedly occurred at a party in September. Namely, leaked tapes of Bristol Palin’s teary description of an assault she endured that night at the hands of an unnamed man. In the recording, Bristol was heard giving a clearly upset, obscenity riddled explanation of the events that transpired to a police officer. She recounted how she was knocked to the ground, dragged by her feet and cursed at repeatedly by a male attacker....more

Kim Kardashian Shows Off Society’s Problem with Sexual Moms

Let’s start with a question: Have you seen Kim Kardashian’s ass lately? And if the answer is no, under what rock do you live? Last week, Paper Magazine released their Winter cover, featuring the extra-glossy derriere of America’s favorite celeb to talk smack about, and although it didn’t actually break the internet, it did immediately ignite the controversy Paper Magazine no doubt intended. There are a lot of questions surrounding the Great Nude Cover of November 2014, but there’s one in particular that sets my brow to furrowing. Can a mother be sexy?...more

Shop Your Favorite TV Wardrobes with Spylight

Introducing my friends to Spylight.com was not unlike the feeling of spending too much time on Reddit and getting to show people funny videos/stories/cat pictures before they go viral. Call me a hipster, if you will. But it just feels so damn good to have discovered something excellent before it becomes everyone’s favorite thing....more

The Secret Sadness of Being Independent

I was calmly holding it together in the psychologist’s office until he asked, “Are you lonely?” Involuntarily, tears started pouring down my face and I stammered that yes, yes, I was lonely. I made the appointment to talk about how I screwed up every relationship I’d been in, but this revelation was unexpected. I did not return to find out how to fix it....more

Why I Can't Answer "Where Are You From?"

“Hey, where are you from? Your accent…”People love to guess where I’m from, but the problem is, I don’t really have an answer to that question, and I’m pretty sure all Third Culture Kids (3CKs) don’t either.‘Third Culture Kid’ is a term usually applied to people that were raised outside their parents’ culture, and moved through more than one culture before they had time to develop their own cultural identity....more

Being Asexual in a Heteronormative World

Heteronormativity, by definition, is basically the principle that in our culture, heterosexuality is the norm and any deviations from it, be it homosexuality or asexuality or anything else, are in the excluded minority and are every day forced to live in a culture that isn’t ours but is increasingly forced upon us. Take it from an asexual (ace): Living in a very heteronormative and increasingly sex-enthusiastic culture is very isolating if you don’t conform to it....more
Found this on Blogher today and read it with interest but realized I had already read it.  I ...more

3 Tips For Setting Boundaries

Boundaries can, and should be set with those in our lives who feel they have a right to disrupt our happiness. These people can include close friends, co-workers, and family members. Boundaries are a tool to be utilized to promote self care, and putting ourselves before others. Although that may seem selfish, it’s very difficult for some of us to be fully present with the people around us if we’re unhappy. Sometimes in order to do that, we need to tackle the uncomfortable task of setting boundaries with those who we love dearly, but have a tendency to bring us down....more