On Loving Someone Who Deploys

My boyfriend’s job requires that he leaves me, much like a deployment within the military would. He is former military and has been hardwired for the excitement that this lifestyle and type of work brings to the table. The work he does now is very similar to the work he did in the military and includes all of the same risks. People who work within his field are in danger. The job requires years of experience and specialized training—only a small niche of men meet these requirements....more

Why I Stayed

I believe it’s important to share stories as a society. I believe that if enough people share their own iteration of a broken narrative, eventually we will begin to see a shift in the stories being told. With that in mind, I’m going to share the story of why I stayed in an abusive and broken relationship....more

The Fight of the Female Journalist

I’ve learned a lot of things during my time in the journalism world. City council members will not return your phone calls. Don’t bury your lede. Heels are a nice thought, but should often be avoided. You get one mistake in your entire career, and that’s it. And if you’re a woman, you will always walk an uncomfortable line....more

The Rare Privilege of Not Needing Feminism

I’ve spent most of my life not thinking or caring about feminism. For the bulk of that time I didn’t know much about it aside from the standard references to suffragettes and bra burning, and my academic interests led more toward war history than feminism. Even after a few rounds with Simone de Beauvoir and gender theory in a philosophy class, it was still an easy thing to dismiss and kick to the side for one key reason:I had the privilege of never needing it....more

Being Asexual in a Heteronormative World

Heteronormativity, by definition, is basically the principle that in our culture, heterosexuality is the norm and any deviations from it, be it homosexuality or asexuality or anything else, are in the excluded minority and are every day forced to live in a culture that isn’t ours but is increasingly forced upon us. Take it from an asexual (ace): Living in a very heteronormative and increasingly sex-enthusiastic culture is very isolating if you don’t conform to it....more

Why I Can't Answer "Where Are You From?"

“Hey, where are you from? Your accent…”People love to guess where I’m from, but the problem is, I don’t really have an answer to that question, and I’m pretty sure all Third Culture Kids (3CKs) don’t either.‘Third Culture Kid’ is a term usually applied to people that were raised outside their parents’ culture, and moved through more than one culture before they had time to develop their own cultural identity....more

No Really, I Never Want to Have Kids

I am twenty-four years old and I can tell you, without a shadow of a doubt, that I don’t want to have children. Ever. When I get on my own health insurance I want to get my tubes tied, and until then I will take every possible precaution to avoid getting pregnant. We live in the 21st century, so why is a woman who opts to stay childfree for life still given the stink-eye?...more
"I choose not to allocate my body and my financial, emotional, and physical resources to that ...more

Lessons Learned From Living With a Disability

You can’t really understand it until it happens to you, but there is a lot to think about when you live with a disability. I wouldn’t know if it hadn’t happened to me, but it did, so I am passing my wisdom onto you readers. There are a lot of misconceptions about disabled people, and I’ll be the first to admit I don’t know everything, but I will share with you what I know. I don’t have a disability, but I live with someone who does....more
Not something, someONE. Jeez.more

After the Sword Attack: Recovering From Domestic Abuse

When I first meet Simonne Butler, I am in awe at the powerful woman I’ve seen all over the news talking about the healing journey she has been on after being brutally attacked by her ex-boyfriend with a samurai sword. She is even more striking in real life—standing on the front porch of the cottage she rents in the country, barefoot, with her reddish hair over her shoulders, and piercing blue eyes. I am so star-struck that I can only vaguely remember something I wasn’t meant to do....more