Valentine's Day and the Single Woman: Gifting Yourself and Others

Travel back with me, if you will, to the worst Valentine's Day of my life. (No, really, please, come with me. I hate to go there alone.) The first thing I saw when I walked in the door was a large print hanging over our apartment fireplace: an image of two children dressed in Victorian grownup clothes, colorized blush on their cheeks. The little boy knelt down in front of the girl, handing her a rose. My boyfriend stood there smiling, proud of himself, waiting for my reaction to his mall-bought Mona Lisa. ...more
I just wrote a post about being single on Valentine's Day! The day you have planned sounds ...more

GOP Pushes Anti-Abortion Vote on Roe vs. Wade's 42nd Anniversary

[UPDATE 1/22/15 10:50 a.m. PST: The House approved a bill permanently barring federal funds from abortion coverage and blocks tax credits for health insurance covering abortions. --Grace] ...more
Last year I purchased the Annie Leibovitz/Susan Santog book "Women" and I was really surprised ...more

It's Okay If You Can't Even Do Half 30. Or Any 30. Or Anything, Today.

The new year can be hell for an addict. The holiday season is bad enough, what with the world drinking all over the place like we do on April Tuesday afternoons or whenever, and all of those ads for parties and presents with bottles as phallic symbols or vaginas or boobs wrapped in tinsel and ribbon. Everyone pretending to be alcoholics and calling it a-wassailing, basically ....more


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I love smoking. I just can't do it anymore.

I love smoking. I would like to say I hate it, that after I quit every time that I put it down never to pick it up again. I'd like to say that I avoid secondhand smoke, and don't in fact hang around it just a few seconds longer than I need to, that my realization that cigarettes are the devil's handiwork and the product of a corrupt industry make me high five myself for giving them up and that I've never thought about doing it again at all because that would be stupid ....more

What Does The Whiteness Project Really Show About Race in America?

Watching the videos from the first installment of The Whiteness Project—24 clips filmed this July in Buffalo as part of documentary filmmaker Whitney Dow's project—was uncomfortable, and sadly revealed nothing surprising. How do you reject white privilege? How do you deny responsibility for humane speech and action towards others? How do you co-opt other people's struggles? It's pretty easy, apparently.  ...more
Rita Arens Thank you, Rita. Some of these comments make me want to scream. The denial of ...more

Nominate an Outstanding Teacher for the Global Teaching Prize

Chances are you know a teacher worth a million bucks—real and metaphorical. You may even be that kind of educator. With a nomination by October 5, that money—the grand prize in the Global Teacher Prize competition—could be in her (or your—go you!) hands. ...more

Because of Him

Written for and read at the Listen to Your Mother Baltimore Show, April 26, 2014 ...more

Cousin Number One

Originally posted as part of a larger post, September 24, 2008. My mother and her brother were over at my grandmother’s house a day or so after she died. I was sitting at the table and I looked up at the top of the server, as she called it, a huge China closet on top of a chest of drawers, essentially ....more

Shoot the Buddha, 47/365

Instagram, February 16, 2014 I never edit big camera photos on mobile, but this one ended up in my phone stream somehow and I can't get this place off of my mind, or the Buddha, or the green. I wrote a blog post about this day, and this picture. I would like to go back to this spot now, feeling and living like I do ....more