The Movie Never Ends: A Grandmother's Advice to Young Moms

Dear young mom,You look at me and see a grandmother who had her chance. You figure what I could tell you about being a mother would begin and end with a rotary phone. Nothing I know would apply now in this whole different world, more enlightened, informed, nutritious....more

Friend or Foe?

There is a peculiar blessing in being underestimated, the most obvious benefit of which is having to only slightly exceed people's very low expectations to be considered exceptional....more

High Minded

 Among the many admissions I would have to make in court if this child had fallen and broken his neck was that I was the one who took the picture. However, my co-defendant can be seen watching from the porch....more

You Just Need One

You don't need an army. You just need one.One person who, like you, lost her job.One person whose brother, like yours, lost his mind.One person whose house, like yours, burned to the ground.One person whose children, like yours, fail in school.One person who, like you, cannot hear in the dark....more

Dear Young Mom

 Dear young mom,You look at me and see a grandmother who had her chance. You figure what I could tell you about being mother would begin and end with a rotary phone. Nothing I know would apply now in this whole different world, more enlightened, informed, nutritious....more

A Note, A Phone, and Faded Memories of Adoption

We looked through old papers tonight, pages of them, some in English, most in Spanish, documents pulled out of a torn white envelope, each one signifying some step in the adoption of one of our three children from Nicaragua. In the papers were names we had forgotten, names of people and places. ...more

"In a Relationship"" It Was Never that Simple for Me

A few days ago a Facebook friend posted that she was "In a Relationship" with another person who is an actual, real life friend of mine and I wondered to myself, what event or decision precipitated that declaration?Is it a thing that one person asks the other if it's okay to change one's status on Facebook from single to "In a Relationship?" It has to be, why wouldn't it be? There are lots of things that are things now that weren't before. Just like there are things that were, like going steady and getting pinned, that are no more. My life needs a bookmark....more

A Surprise Visit from an Old Lover

He slid into my car, leaned over and kissed my neck. Nothing had changed in thirty years. He still thought I wanted him to kiss my neck. Never mind that I’d been married to someone else for twenty-five years, raised four children, and was a grandmother. I was 30 when he was kissing my neck in earnest. Now I was 60....more
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Where is Your Fine Hat?

I woke up in the night, found a pencil and wrote the words "I miss my mother's things" on a receipt stuck in a book on my bedside table....more

Wilted: The Power of a Mother's Criticism

My mother scolded me on the phone one night for leaving my eight-year old daughter alone while I went to the store and I didn't talk to her for months. I felt the scorch of her judgment in every part of my body. It made me sick, angry, indignant, sorrowful, shamed....more