What Should Teens Do This Summer? Get a Job??

I was driving my younger son and his friend to soccer practice when they both started lamenting their busy summer schedules. My son’s friend is starting driver’s education as soon as soccer ends because, as he explained with a touch of sarcasm, “I can’t have one day with nothing to do.” My son groaned in sympathy. “I know,” my son added. “I don’t have a single day off this summer.”Insert eye roll here....more

How To Survive Summer Break With Your College Kid

Nine months ago I wrote about how my oldest son was off to college and I worried about how I was going to adjust. I was so sad and so convinced that I would never grow accustomed to setting the table for three instead of four and I would always mourn his absence.Well, I got used to it....more

The First Child Experiment

Our poor first-born children.We parents have no idea how little we know about parenting our oldest child until our subsequent children go through a similar experience. Only then can we look back and say to ourselves, damn, I screwed that up!...more

A New Holiday Tradition

Have you heard about the new holiday tradition? It’s non-denominational, it can happen any time between Thanksgiving and New Year’s Day and you can’t plan it (I don’t think).It’s the Traditional Holiday Fight and everyone has one.I never thought of it as a tradition until a friend of mine asked me if I had had my holiday fight yet. I laughed because, of course, I had. We are deep into December – it’s to be expected. She had her fight over Thanksgiving, which might be the way to go since it helps defuse the tension that is sure to build up by December....more

It's a Thanksgiving Miracle!

The Thanksgiving season is usually not considered the time of miracles and yet something miraculous happened yesterday. Not the miracle of weeping icons or spontaneous healing, mind you, but miraculous just the same.Let me back up.My 18-year-old, college freshman came home for Thanksgiving break last night and within 45 minutes our battle for control began.And, no, the miracle is not that it didn’t happen sooner.After several hugs for the dog, a couple quick hugs for me, and a discussion about laundry he disappeared into his room....more
Oh my gosh, I feel your pain, and mine haven't even left the nest yet.  I still have a year or ...more

Top Five Ways That Teenagers Are Like Toddlers

Lately I’ve been mourning the loss of my boys’ toddlerhood – the days when they hugged me with abandon, belly laughed over a silly sound and viewed the world with wonder and amazement.I miss the days when I had little people who smelled yummy and wanted to be around me ALL THE TIME. Now, they are teenagers who are very different creatures – they smell like sweat and body spray and they wouldn’t be caught dead holding on to my leg or arm let alone spending hours at my side....more

A New Normal

It’s been over a week since my son left for college and I still close his bedroom door every night and open it in the morning....more

A Surprising Thing That I Will Miss When My Kid Goes to College

We are less than a month away from the day that we leave our older son behind at college and head home to a slightly emptier house.In order to avoid thinking about that for too long, I have been putting my energy into dealing with all of crap that needs to be done before he leaves for school: dorm room shopping, doctor’s appointments, haircut appointments, clothes shopping and, as a last-minute stressor, wisdom teeth extractions....more

Top Ways My Life Has Changed Since My Kids Became Teenagers

I’ve been chugging along, doing the parenting thing and not really paying attention to all of the changes in my life. Sure, I’ve noticed what’s going on with my kids growth and I’ve noted their milestones but I didn’t really pay attention to how much my life has changed (and I’m not talking about the gray hair, wrinkles and all around aging that I’ve done since they were little).No, it’s the day-to-day stuff that changed and I didn’t really see it coming.Until now....more

Mother Does Not Know Best

Honey, when someone is mean to you,don't give them flowers....more