Were You Sexually Assaulted? I Believe You

I believe you. Even though your face isn’t bruised, even though your bones aren’t broken. Even though it’s been days or weeks since it happened. Even if, at some point in your life, you thought you loved him, or you really did love him. This time, you said no. Maybe you were still together; maybe you were broken up, or breaking up. It doesn’t matter what you wore or what you drank. You said no. More than once. ...more

Why You Should Kinda Stop Saying This Word

“Kinda,” as in “kind of,” or its cousin, “sorta,” has become a staple of our professional vernacular. In presentations, meetings, and conference calls, “kinda” and “sorta” add a comforting conversational lilt, and can serve as less irritating filler devices than “uhs” and “ums.” But while the occasional “er” might be merely distracting or slightly irritating, using “kinda” and “sorta” can actually detract from your message, change your meaning, and even impact your listeners’ confidence in your material. Here’s why....more

What to Do When You Can't Sleep

One reason I left the “city that never sleeps” is precisely that: It never shuts down. There’s always something going on. That energy and intensity can be exhilarating, especially if you are able to shut it out come bedtime. But if you can’t, there goes YOUR energy and intensity, along with your productivity. (Car alarms were my ultimate downfall.)...more
Ugh, I have the hardest time falling asleep (you should see the raccoon eyes I have). I try ...more

New Minivanthem to Rock Your Cupholders

In this new music video, “Mini Van” transforms the quintessential family car into the ultimate swag wagon, elevating its coolness to out-of-this-world proportions.  ...more

Love, Tossed Out of The Window

It’s hard to describe what it feels like to discover your husband has been cheating on you. Luckily, I’m not often asked about it, because people are usually too afraid to ask. They convince themselves that it’s none of their business, that I probably don’t want to talk about it, or that it would just make an otherwise lovely afternoon uncomfortable. The truth is that I want to say all of this out loud because it really happened....more
Beautiful, my life changed one Friday morning 2 months when I confirmed my husband had been ...more

Even Better the Second Night: The Passover Ha-Haggadah

For more than a decade, I’ve been hosting Passover seders with a twist: We laugh. Not that oppression and bondage and brick-shaping are particularly funny. But after years of arid ceremonies and pasty matzoh balls and the same old same old, I struck out with my own Passover haggadah, which I called the Ha-Haggadah. Besides, I’ve had mostly Reformish Jews, non-Jews, and kids around my table, and we needed some kind of “hook” to keep folks engaged....more

Drinks & Apps

You know those friends who can’t be away from their iPhones for any length of time? (Like, um, ME, for instance?) These wine glass charms, made from upcycled vintage Scrabble tiles (letter visible on reverse) are sure to appease them with the comforting, familiar icons they love and need. Maybe it will even be enough to convince them to leave their phones in the car. Or, more likely, they’ll be snapping pics of your cool wine charms with their iPhones. ...more

High-Tech Chivalry Isn't Dead

In more genteel times — that is, before restaurants were dotted with people talking and texting on their cell phones — refined men carried handkerchiefs. As the name implies, they were certainly handy, especially before the pocket-pack of Kleenex was invented. But beyond the practicality of it, they enabled a gallant gesture, held out to a woman to dab her brow or wipe her tears. It simply and elegantly showed he cared....more

Expanding Your "Social" Circle: Welcome to the Party

Recently, my friend Gary admitted to feeling a bit anti-"social" — a little disconnected from the electronic connections everyone seems to be making. What he needed, I told him, was a chance to get to know the popular players. As luck would have it, my perky friend Eventbrite was throwing a party that very Friday night. So I brought him along....more

Snooping -- Why Do We Do It?

It wasn't premeditated. I wasn't feeling suspicious and I don't think I'm particularly controlling or furtive. I suck at poker. But, I do like information. Technology is so in our faces today that you almost have to go out of your way not to notice semi-provocative Facebook comments or demandingly hyperactive cell phones. Studies show I'm not alone -- women are snooping all over the globe, and almost as many men admit to spying in the name of love. Why do we do this? ...more
I've learned that snooping is NOT right however, having your partner "wondering" can be done by ...more