Being Black, Kinky, and Empowered

“I am Black, kinky and seriously considering leaving The Life.”I think about these words now from where he has commanded me, on my knees, hands on my thighs, completely still. I am rarely ever still; there is always one more thing to do, another task I start to think of while pretending to relax. My feelings of gratitude to him for seeing this, for taking the time to help me conquer my racing brain, they are giving way to thoughts of how I thought I could live without this....more
I, too, am a Black woman who is into BDSM; my husband, who isn't Black, is the Dominant one.  ...more

Loving Beyond Gender: What Dating A Woman Taught Me About Dating Men

Long before I met my first girlfriend, I knew I had within me the capacity to love beyond gender.  I am attracted to every form; all our expressions of masculine and feminine. When I would tell people, they ask me to pick- surely I prefer one.  “I don’t,” I’ve insisted.There was a period where despite my insistence, I couldn’t quite be sure....more
@FireinFreetown Thank you for giving me a way to look at my past with more value.  I have been ...more

When It Comes to Dating, Twitter is the Best Place for Me

I never thought I’d be the girlfriend who called about tweets.  Yet there I was, sitting in front of my computer completely horrified and desperately searching for my phone.He wouldn’t have said that…he didn’t type that…not the guy who knew about my past. Not him.But there it was. The tweet that sent my entire timeline in a tizzy and he’d written it:"The women who say they want to be equal to men  would call the cops on a man for hitting them like his equal.”...more
FireinFreetown Great post! You hit on some of the same points I've been making recently.more