Finding Love "Beyond The Lights": A Conversation with Writer-Director Gina Prince-Bythewood

Love is a comfort. Knowing someone loves you gives you courage and confidence in yourself. I want to share what I have with others so they know that it is possible. – Gina Prince-Bythewood...more

3 Wedding Traditions Single People Absolutely Hate

Weddings get on my nerves!Don’t disregard my opinion because I’m divorced, currently unwed, and over 35. To be clear, none of these things have anything to do with how I feel about weddings and hey, I actually planned one before.I’ve attended a LOT of weddings and, for the most part, they are all the same. Sure, some couples add culturally diverse touches, try a few of the new, trendy ideas, or buck one or two of the “traditions”, but most weddings follow the same rules and procession.That. Is. Borrrrring....more
We didn't assign seating and it all worked out super well. I've never understood the need for ...more

What's Your Favorite Type of Porn?

It was late at night and I'd had one hell of a day. I took my son to school, went to work for 10 hours, then headed to record my weekly radio show. By the time I got home, I'd been out of my house for 16 hours and I just wanted to curl up and go to sleep. I was also horny, my boyfriend was in another city, and I realized I had just enough energy lef to rub one off....more
This is one of those POLARIZING topics among feminists.  Hubby and I had accumulated a drawer of ...more

8 Things Women Wish They'd Known Before Getting Married

 I wish I had known.......more
LOL. Sad to say, I think there are some things we know but don't want to believe. And they are ...more

Curing Sickle Cell Anemia Could Be One Healthy Stem Cell Away

I recently had the opportunity to learn about the viability of cord blood preservation and the impact it can have on the lives of children who may, unfortunately, become ill. Admittedly, I knew little about the process of cord blood banking, and subsequent use of cord blood, and how it might be important to families. That's why I took the opportunity to learn from the ViaCord team, courtesy of BlogHer, Inc....more

Intimate Partner Abuse vs. BDSM: Kink Only Hurts When You Want It To

October is Domestic/Intimate Partner Awareness Month...more
Safe, sane, and consensual. Without ALL THREE of these aspects, an individual /couple is not ...more

Turn Your Lover's Face Into Your Personal Seat

Have you ever taken a seat on your lover’s face? ...more
Hurray for a practical, useful post!  Women are often self conscious about their weight during ...more

7 Confessions From Women Who Go Back to Abusers

Leaving an abusive relationship is never easy. We know that up to 75% of deaths related to domestic violence happen as a victim attempts to leave or after a victim has left an abuser. It is difficult not only for victims to leave, it is also difficult for them to admit to why they stay. Too often, people are highly judgmental of the choices victims of DV/IPV make and that judgment silences victims. The best support we can provide to people who are in abusive relationships is to be respectful of their autonomy, respect their choices, and offer whatever levels of support and assistance we can. ...more

For Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Remember That Love Doesn't Hurt

The first time someone I (thought I) loved slapped me, I was stunned into silence. I was 16, he was 24, and while there were so many things wrong with our pairing, the physical and emotional abuse were the worst. How does a 16-year-old respond to a hard slap across the cheek in response to saying something he would later say made him feel like "less of a man", when he is bigger and is much stronger? My ears ringing, I paused, completely silenced and stunned that he would strike out at me rather than discuss whatever I said that upset him. It seemed excessive, and I found myself (oddly) doing more to make sense of it than process it as wrong....more
When I get caught up in the emotion of domestic violence situations, I feel overwhelmed with ...more

Consenting to Sexual Activity is Now the Law in California

In a groundbreaking legislative move, California governor Jerry Brown signed into law a bill that affirms the necessity of consent when it comes to engaging in sexual activity. According to this new bill, signed on September 28, 2014, any college that receives state funding will have to abide by this new standard for consent-- a verbal yes or non-verbal gesture of consent must be given before sexual activity ensues....more
Is the law in new zealand. My partner successfully gained a conviction of rape for an older ...more