Unschooling: What About College?

One of the reader questions submitted was: “Do you worry your kids will want to go to college and wonder why they can’t?”...more

Three Strokes to One: Social Situations

One of the metaphors that my diagnosing psychologist used to illustrate the exhaustion of being autistic in an allistic (that is, non-autistic) world is about paddling down a river. All of the neurotypical people are sitting in their kayaks paddling along with the current, but the autistic person is paddling through a current that runs in the other direction. For every one stroke the other kayakers paddle, the autistic kayaker has to paddle three strokes just to keep up....more

Frequently Asked Question

The most common question I’ve heard since I came out as an autistic person is, what was it about you that made you seek an autism diagnosis?I’ve struggled to answer this because I feel like it contains several different questions and I’m not entirely sure which one a person is asking me when they ask it. (You might take note that struggling to answer a question because I am somewhat paralyzed by having to choose from all the many answers that I could give… is part of being autistic!)...more

Neurodivergent

You may or may not remember that I made a passing mention, in a This & That post last fall, of reading and relating to a post on the blog Musings of an Aspie....more

On Conquering Creative Fear

On Working Through Dry Spells

Last month I got super excited about writing about creativity all through March, and sketched out a posting schedule and topics I wanted to write about, but then, life happens. My flow was interrupted by the anxiety of waiting for my grandmother’s passing, by making travel plans, by traveling and being with family and all of the swirling thoughts and feelings that that entails, and by the busy schedule that awaited me when I came home....more

On Creativity

Drawings I made at age five....more

On Doing Things Badly

A lot of people talk about “failing well,” and I do love the concept. But, maybe this is just a linguistic quirk of mine, the word failure does not resonate with me a whole lot when it comes to creativity.I see failure as a binary possibility – pass/fail, success/failure. You fail a test, fail a class. It’s a kind of non-doing. You did not meet the criteria or measurement of success. You failed....more

Unschooling Your Spouse

 Having a different parenting style than your spouse is a common problem....more

The Freedom in Not Knowing

I didn’t get into unschooling for the freedom of it, though many people do. I probably hadn’t thought that much about freedom anyway, having taken for granted a whole range of cultural beliefs about how people need structure and order. I was drawn to unschooling because research supported it and I was persuaded from both a logical and intuitive stance that it was a good, probably the best, way for children to learn....more
At 15, I was sent to a school that practiced "self-directed learning", pretty much as a last ...more