Self Care During Depression or Burnout

How can you maintain good self care practices when you are going through depression and/or burnout? Someone asked me this question, and it’s a question that I am in the process of trying to answer for myself....more
EISFORERIN, this is deeply wise. As a professional Life Coach, I guide my clients to understand ...more

Know Thyself: My Top Ten Self Care Acts

It’s been hard to get started on a second post about self care, partly because I’ve felt like a bit of a fraud thinking about how to write about it when I have not been practicing good self care since the month began. I’ve been pushing too hard and flaming out almost daily. I am not even sure why.Last week my focus was on self-acceptance, and how that has to be step one toward proper self care. Acknowledging that self-acceptance is a long process, however, we can’t get stuck on trying to “achieve” that before beginning to care for ourselves well....more

Self Care is a Radical Act

Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare. – Audre LordeI came across the above quote from activist and poet Audre Lorde and felt inspired to write on the theme of self care for the month of June. Interestingly, when I searched Pinterest for the quote, hoping to find it in some already-memed form that I could instantly share, I found a lot of people had chopped off the last phrase about political warfare. Why?...more

Unschooling: Screen Time

A lot of unschooling families I know (or read about), and a lot of families whose kids attend democratic schools, do not limit screen time for children. We’re one of them. We are a pro-screen family....more

Can Unschooled Children Go to College?

One of the reader questions submitted was: “Do you worry your kids will want to go to college and wonder why they can’t?” I am going to unpack this question a little bit, because to me it carries some common misconceptions about unschooling. For starters, “unschooling” is admittedly not a great name for what we do. It’s just kind of the best name we have, and I’ve heard other unschoolers bemoan this reality. ...more
I don't unschool, at least in a traditional "unschooler way", but I've used parent generated ...more

Three Strokes to One: Social Situations

One of the metaphors that my diagnosing psychologist used to illustrate the exhaustion of being autistic in an allistic (that is, non-autistic) world is about paddling down a river. All of the neurotypical people are sitting in their kayaks paddling along with the current, but the autistic person is paddling through a current that runs in the other direction. For every one stroke the other kayakers paddle, the autistic kayaker has to paddle three strokes just to keep up....more

Frequently Asked Question

The most common question I’ve heard since I came out as an autistic person is, what was it about you that made you seek an autism diagnosis?I’ve struggled to answer this because I feel like it contains several different questions and I’m not entirely sure which one a person is asking me when they ask it. (You might take note that struggling to answer a question because I am somewhat paralyzed by having to choose from all the many answers that I could give… is part of being autistic!)...more

Neurodivergent

You may or may not remember that I made a passing mention, in a This & That post last fall, of reading and relating to a post on the blog Musings of an Aspie....more

On Conquering Creative Fear

On Working Through Dry Spells

Last month I got super excited about writing about creativity all through March, and sketched out a posting schedule and topics I wanted to write about, but then, life happens. My flow was interrupted by the anxiety of waiting for my grandmother’s passing, by making travel plans, by traveling and being with family and all of the swirling thoughts and feelings that that entails, and by the busy schedule that awaited me when I came home....more