It’s POF Time, Kids!

So. There’s this thing that exists that I refer to as “POF time” and I really first encountered it when Daniel came into the picture. It’s like dog years, the speed of light and the Ferris Bueller quote about life all rolled up into one online dating Lucy axiom. Ish. It is def one of those things no one tells anyone else about. There’s no warning when you create your profile and I’ve never read anything about it. For the love of God people - where's the goddamn dating manual??...more

Let’s Have That Sex Talk Now, Kids.

I’m writing about sex today because it’s on my mind. And not in a good way. And it’s SEX, dude. If I’m thinking about it or you’re thinking about it, it SHOULD BE in a fucking good way, amiright? But it’s me here so let’s get real. Sigh. ...more
DatewithLucy haha!  Lucy you are the best!  Thanks for your POV.  Yeah---hit the gym last night ...more

And Then There Were Two.

Now we’re at the beginning of my one and only POF summer o’ love which is so irritating because who doesn’t look better dating tanned, flip flopped and tiny dressed? Hello. I was hanging out with B and having FUN for the first time since I went on the fucking site, literally, but oc my profile was still up and I was still active. OC. And that’s when Daniel messaged me. ...more

Date. Document. Repeat.

 I gotta say, it’s been an odd life since I began blogging about dating while still dating. I mean, it’s not like I’m trying to be a neutral third party observer; I am Lucy and Lucy is me, just me in HD....more
DatewithLucy adelewishnot  hmmm--dating fatigue.  What an interesting term!  though for me it's ...more

When I Wasn’t Myself And Had My First Fun Date. Finally!

My first real, actually pleasurable date was on Canada Day/ July 1st. I’ll never forget it because of that and also because it was low fat, cruelty free and non work related in every way with fireworks thrown in for good measure. I fucking LOVE fireworks.#Boom....more
TY!  It's not easy to become alternate universe you so just be gentle with yourself if it ...more

What Is The Thing With Feathers.

I want to talk about Hope.  I want to talk about Hope because right now, I’m completely enmeshed in a default false intimacy sitch – I KNOW! - and Hope is my new best friend. Well, one hour she is then one hour she’s my frenemy, then we give each other facials then I’m all like: “bitch, don’t even...” and then she’s all like: “bitch, I’m not leaving…” . Yeah. Fuck. #Sigh. ...more

What I Refer To As Pride And Your Personal Train Schedule.

Caveat: This is like but not like "When Good Times Want to Head to the Dark Side". Honestly, some shit just needs reiterating, especially when you're in the POF pool. #gah...more
adelewishnot  Thank you! It's sooo not you. You can't control how others behave and you have to ...more

How To Deal With Acts of Random Dating.

First of all, let me publicly acknowledge that I am as fucking random as the day is long. Like totally. I’m the equivalent of a human non sequitur in my own life…it’s just how I roll, dude. I could attempt to connect the dots but it may or may not form a coherent picture to myself let alone anyone else so I don’t even try anymore. If you love me anyway, awesome possum! and if you’re simply confounded, join the club. ...more

Why Crying’s Not Allowed On A First Date.

There was just something about him…Danny 2.0 sent me a long and thoughtful message on POF soon after all the sound and fury and ridiculousness of the 22 year old 37 year old. He wasn’t really my type and most of his pictures left me cold but there was one to which I was curiously drawn so I replied. Immediately. Well, Danny freaked out and made some stupid crack about “Wow! That was fast!” so I let it go, thinking: “Huh. ” It didn’t match what he’d first said, let’s put it that way. ...more

How Do You Come Back From Nowhere?

The title is a rhetorical question and refers to dates or even non date connections that have that unfortunate rubber ball quality. I say unfortunate because it’s never someone you WANT coming back to you or you wouldn’t have thrown the fucking thing in the first place, am I right? ...more