Manipulation 101


The light, the flame, the love.

 I was in the therapist's office. Talking about my failures. Too numerous to mention here. She, in all of her wisdom, addressed my current nagging issue. I talked about how I am trying to teach my children that the "spotlight" must be shared and just because one child is shining, the other child is not dull.The problem is, somehow (?), my girls have turned the "spotlight" into a competition that has parental love, as the grand prize. My therapist used the most illustrative of metaphors to help me and I want to share it here....more

Parenting and what it is not

Today I will write about my relationship with my parents, and how it changed over the years. ...more

Is Your Teen Obsessed With Her Screen?

I have 2 teenaged daughters. They both have laptops and iPhones. I supervise them. For instance, the only iTunes account is mine, so if they buy a song, I know about it. I know their passwords as well. Despite all of that, sometimes shit happens. ...more
Yes, and I was shocked when I started seeing the number of texts each month on the phone bill ...more

Anything but that

My husband sings in the shower. He makes up lyrics to real songs. He personalizes the songs to our life, our family, our situation. On Sunday he was belting out a song to the tune of "California Dreaming". You know..."all the leaves are brown...."I walked through on my way to the closet. He stopped singing and asked if I wanted to talk about anything. Anything like what? I asked.The girls?Us?Religion?Politics?I said, "ummm....anything but politics"....more

Passion Police

 February is a month to blog about Passion. What you are passionate about? Who are you passionate about? What fuels your passions and stuff like that? Blah blah, love, passion, moon, spoon, June. Not feeling it. But I am only 5 days into the month so anything is possible....more

In a rut

It is the 27th day of January in the year 2016 and I am officially in a New Year's rut. My 2015 ended with my health being in a pretty crappy space and it interfered with my ability to embrace this New Year. I am still in a place of unknowing with regard to my intestinal distress but I had a GI doctor tell me that in the realm of patients seen at his practice, I am considered very healthy. As if this was supposed to make me feel better. Which it did not. It infuriated me. And that confused me....more

Good Enough

 If being an expert at something, anything, was all I needed to feel accomplished...well, I am not an expert at anything. I am a know-it-all but that is not the same thing. You know what I am really good at? Listening. I am not ever in a rush to blurt out my greatest ideas ever, until you are quite finished telling me your greatest idea ever. ...more

Lesson learned: fear imbedded

Two blogging days combined into today because I am going on a short trip tomorrow and I won't be blogging. write about a lesson learned at a young age and who taught it to you. write about a childhood fear and if you overcame it or why you may still have it.Great....more

When I grow up.....

 When I was a kid, did I want to have the same job or a different job than my parents did...?...more