Broken but Beautiful

Dexter and I walk. We amble the same neighborhood most days. He never fails to find new and interesting things to smell ....more

From Infertility to Openness: The Evolution of Jessica

Jess simultaneously straddles two sides of The Adoption Wait — waiting to get picked as adoptive parents and waiting to be matched as embryo donors (there’s a new development on that on her blog).In this guest post about her ridiculously crazy journey through infertility, third party reproduction, and adoption, Jess tells how her beliefs evolved … Continue reading From Infertility to Openness: The Evolution of Jessica → The post From Infertility to Openness: The Evolution of Jessica appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

Parenting Teens amid Rape Culture

Back before Orlando and Istanbul, when we were still talking about Stanford rapist Brock Turner and the rape culture that he, his parents and the judge arose from and perpetuate, I remember reading lots of opinions about the fact that alcohol had been involved. The gist was something like this: just because the survivor was … Continue reading Parenting Teens amid Rape Culture → The post Parenting Teens amid Rape Culture appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

My Daughter is Hurting in Our Open Adoption. Help?

Question: My teenage daughter is struggling with rejection and misunderstandings from her birth family. I don’t know how to help.“Sara” will be 16 soon and for the last year she has struggled with depression and anxiety....more

3 Things I Learned from the Adoption Process

The adoption process is not for the faint of heart. It requires big things of regular people. Running that gauntlet caused me to develop three new abilities, each which would eventually come in handy years later.Lesson 1: Calm the ChatterThe Wait ....more

Busting a Fear (with video proof)

You may recall that I am one of the most bawk! bawk! chicken-y people around (remember the double-dose of Xanax I needed to get through a simple LASIK procedure?).I am on a quest to bust through some of my limiting beliefs, like the one that says I don’t get along well with water, especially wild … Continue reading Busting a Fear (with video proof) → The post Busting a Fear (with video proof) appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

Be a Good Guest Poster: How to Share in Another’s Space

I get requests daily from people who want to guest post in this space. Like this post on difficulties and regrets in an open adoption, or this one on being a birth grandmother, or this one on a hidden peril faced by internationally adopted people.I love being able to share with you voices of people … Continue reading Be a Good Guest Poster: How to Share in Another’s Space → The post Be a Good Guest Poster: How to Share in Another’s Space appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

6 Ways You Can Be a Great Guest Poster

Bloggers are advised that one way to grow an audience is to guest post on other sites and blogs. Whether you end up working with the blogger herself or with a site's editor (like, say, on BlogHer), and once your offer to write has been accepted, here are 6 things you need to know to be a good guest in someone else's writing space. ...more
Great question, Haralee .  I’ve asked a few others who agree with me on these two acceptable ...more

Springtime in the Rockies

It’s been a particularly gorgeous spring here in the foothills of the Rocky Mountains. We’ve had milder temperatures and more moisture than in previous years.Dexter and I walk almost every day. Here are some of photos I’ve taken #onmywalk over the last nine weeks ....more
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