My Son’s Birth Mom Sounds Passive Aggressive. Help?

Question: On social media, I posted a cute photo of my cute son doing a cute thing. My son’s mom commented:It sucks to only see pix of him here. I wish you’d send me some ....more

Adoptive Families Still Face Bumpy Roads in the Classroom

As children around the country head back to school, Adam Pertman shares an update to a post he initially published a few years ago. His original article on adoption in schools referenced a 2006 policy paper published by the Donaldson Adoption Institute. He laments that he didn’t have to make many changes because not much … Continue reading Adoptive Families Still Face Bumpy Roads in the Classroom → The post Adoptive Families Still Face Bumpy Roads in the Classroom appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

When It’s Time to Change You’ve Got to Rearrange

I’ve saved voice messages from my son over the last several years. I wasn’t conscious why I’ve done so — space on my phone is limited so why keep mundane messages like “can I have a sleepover” when they are a dime a dozen?I also saved a few voice messages from my daughter, but the … Continue reading When It’s Time to Change You’ve Got to Rearrange → The post When It’s Time to Change You’ve Got to Rearrange appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

Fly Fishing

The summer of 2016 seems to be the one where I do a bunch of things I never thought I’d do. In June it was whitewater rafting, and in July it was fly fishing (full account over on MileHighMamas.com, with commentary from both of my kids).In August, it is slated to be the mind-blowingest one … Continue reading Fly Fishing → The post Fly Fishing appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

7 Questions Adopted Children May Ask

The summer edition of Pathway 2 Family is out. Articles include “What is Infertility?” and “Open Embryo Adoption: Radical or Common Sense?” Click the cover to read for free.My colleague Dawn Davenport of Creating A Family has an article that discusses research on the emotional health on donor-conceived children.And I wrote one that addresses the … Continue reading 7 Questions Adopted Children May Ask → The post 7 Questions Adopted Children May Ask appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

Broken but Beautiful

Dexter and I walk. We amble the same neighborhood most days. He never fails to find new and interesting things to smell ....more

From Infertility to Openness: The Evolution of Jessica

Jess simultaneously straddles two sides of The Adoption Wait — waiting to get picked as adoptive parents and waiting to be matched as embryo donors (there’s a new development on that on her blog).In this guest post about her ridiculously crazy journey through infertility, third party reproduction, and adoption, Jess tells how her beliefs evolved … Continue reading From Infertility to Openness: The Evolution of Jessica → The post From Infertility to Openness: The Evolution of Jessica appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

Parenting Teens amid Rape Culture

Back before Orlando and Istanbul, when we were still talking about Stanford rapist Brock Turner and the rape culture that he, his parents and the judge arose from and perpetuate, I remember reading lots of opinions about the fact that alcohol had been involved. The gist was something like this: just because the survivor was … Continue reading Parenting Teens amid Rape Culture → The post Parenting Teens amid Rape Culture appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

My Daughter is Hurting in Our Open Adoption. Help?

Question: My teenage daughter is struggling with rejection and misunderstandings from her birth family. I don’t know how to help.“Sara” will be 16 soon and for the last year she has struggled with depression and anxiety....more
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