What I’m Watching, Reading, Supporting

Film: Black or White I watched the Colorado premiere of Kevin Costner’s new film Black or White last night at the...more

How My Family Survived a 3 Wheelchair Night

#1: The Boy Early in the evening we got a call from our local Kids Night Out program that Reed had crashed into metal bleachers while playing indoor tag. He had a gash on his leg that should be looked at. Roger and I cut our Date Night short to pick up the kids and … Continue reading How My Family Survived a 3 Wheelchair Night → The post How My Family Survived a 3 Wheelchair Night appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

Being Open Means

While strolling with my sister-in-law in Amherst, MA last summer, I photographed a flag that signaled its boutique was open. Last month I found the words I wanted to put with the image. This post is a part of #MicroblogMondays ....more

The Year of the Luz 2014

Highlights and lowlights of 2014: Quarter 1: Marijuana I buzzed about pot and parenting, now that it’s legal in my state. It proved to be such a verdant topic I hashed it out a second time. Quarter 2: Beelzebub in my Backyard Dexter got infected by the Devil ....more

Peace I Leave With You, My Friends

Especially in light of so many polarizing events in 2014, I’m featuring this little story, retold from my teacher, Ethel, who was, herself, retelling it. ~~~~~ Why Can’t There Be Peace on Earth? A child asked at bedtime, “Mommy why is there war? ...more

We Shared a Moment

On one of these long, schooI-less days, I got a rare cuddle from my teen daughter....more

Christmas Box: Unlocking the Pain of Separation

Three years ago, my friend Linda Schellentrager released her son into the care of someone else. She wrote this post about how this experience gave her a new sense of empathy for another mother who also experienced such a pain of separation. My Own Christmas Box I am an adoptive mom ....more

Adoption Therapy: On Blank Slate Babies & Being Open

There’s a new book out and I think it’s so valuable for adoptive parents, adoption professionals, and adoption therapists that I’m going to share with you here an excerpt from it. When Editor Laura Dennis asked me to read the manuscript for Adoption Therapy: Perspectives from Clients and Clinicians on Processing and Healing Post-Adoption Issues, […] The post Adoption Therapy: On Blank Slate Babies & Being Open appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

#flipthescript — What’s an Adoptive Parent to Do?

I am drawn to the writings of articulate, gentle-yet-incisive people. Barbara Freedgood guest posts today about the impact the #flipthescript movement had on her as an adoptive mom and therapist. She addresses the question that many readers may have had last month as they read the not-so-secret thoughts of adult adoptees: So now that I […] The post #flipthescript — What’s an Adoptive Parent to Do? ...more

Author Q&A: Brandi Rarus Answers Questions about Finding Zoe

What was the social worker’s take on this story? What is the relationship like between birth mom and birth dad today? How did you decide how much of your daughter’s story to share? ...more