The Happy/Sad of Adoption

Last week I witnessed a private interaction that needs to be seen by a wider audience, for it addresses the fallacy that if adoptees are happy and connected to their (adoptive) parents, it follows that they will not have any adoption issues. Can there be a “Happy/Sad” of adoption?At the request of the question asker … Continue reading The Happy/Sad of Adoption → The post The Happy/Sad of Adoption appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

Bad Dream

I woke up the other morning in the middle of a bad dream. I’d been dreaming that someone had not only pulled my dog’s tail, but had pulled it OFF.In my pre-dawn dream world, my poor Dexter, proud wagger of a lush and expressive plume, would forever have to live with this amputation. And so … Continue reading Bad Dream → The post Bad Dream appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

I Went to Orlando for Adoption, Not Disney

Last week I set out from Denver to head to Orlando for a conference about adoption laws and practices.I got to stay in in a Doubletree Hotel Resort for a couple of days. The grounds were beautiful.I was there to attend and speak at the Florida Adoption Council’s annual conference.Shortly after arriving, I met Ashley … Continue reading I Went to Orlando for Adoption, Not Disney → The post I Went to Orlando for Adoption, Not Disney appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

Inquiring Minds Want to Know

Last week I planted two earworms, both with notoriously long endings. I challenged you to estimate which song had more Na Nas, and by a little or a lot.Our ContestantsThe FactorsIn one corner, the Hey Jude outro times in at 3:50, a definite advantage . However, as Jess pointed out, much of that time is … Continue reading Inquiring Minds Want to Know → The post Inquiring Minds Want to Know appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

What if I’m Raising Someone Else’s Children?

A comment left on a recent post caused me to revisit an article published originally on The Huffington Post, now reprinted here.Feeling Like an ImposterOn a spring day many years ago, Crystal was about to leave the hospital after giving birth the day before. We’d recently met through an adoption agency, and we’d suddenly bonded … Continue reading What if I’m Raising Someone Else’s Children? → The post What if I’m Raising Someone Else’s Children? ...more

Question for You Classic Rock Trivia Geeks

Do you love classic rock? A disproportionate number of my car radio presets are for classic rock stations. I love listening to and introducing my children to classic rock ....more

How I Opened to Open Adoption: a #LivingFearless Post

I’ve been invited to participate in the #LivingFearless campaign, sponsored by Protection1....more

Sister Silliness

My sisters and I started the morning chatting about some family news. We checked in about how back-to-school has been for our college, high school, middle school, elementary and pre-preschool kiddos. We joked about all the free time we should thus be having but don’t.I can’t tell you exactly how we meandered there, but the … Continue reading Sister Silliness → The post Sister Silliness appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

My Son’s Birth Mom Sounds Passive Aggressive. Help?

Question: On social media, I posted a cute photo of my cute son doing a cute thing. My son’s mom commented:It sucks to only see pix of him here. I wish you’d send me some ....more

Adoptive Families Still Face Bumpy Roads in the Classroom

As children around the country head back to school, Adam Pertman shares an update to a post he initially published a few years ago. His original article on adoption in schools referenced a 2006 policy paper published by the Donaldson Adoption Institute. He laments that he didn’t have to make many changes because not much … Continue reading Adoptive Families Still Face Bumpy Roads in the Classroom → The post Adoptive Families Still Face Bumpy Roads in the Classroom appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more
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