Tummy Mummy in Adoption: Survey SAYS — !

Two weeks ago I asked what you thought about the term “tummy mummy.” Boy, did you have a lot to say. Among the nearly 300 respondents, who chimed in? 66% were adopting or adoptive parents 11% were adoptees 13% had a professional or nonprofessional interest in adoption 10% had placed a child or lost a … Continue reading Tummy Mummy in Adoption: Survey SAYS — ! ...more

Summer Reading: New Adoption Books

With about half the summer left, I offer you a harvest of new adoption books that have recently become available. Here are some that have come into my mailbox or across my radar. New Adoption Books 2015 Hole in My Heart by Lorraine Dusky For: adults Lorraine, known to many as one of the driving … Continue reading Summer Reading: New Adoption Books → The post Summer Reading: New Adoption Books appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

We Don’t Want an Open Adoption But We Do Want a Baby Fast

I am publishing this brief letter that was recently sent to me not to lambaste the asker, but to help her — and others who may google similar search terms — to see a deeper way of looking at infant adoption....more

Tummy Mummy: What’s Your Opinion on the Title?

On a recent open adoption advice post, the term “tummy mummy” came up in the comments section. I admit, there was a day when I would have embraced that phrase as a term of endearment for the then-unknown women who would make me a mom. And I will also say that neither of those women … Continue reading Tummy Mummy: What’s Your Opinion on the Title? ...more

“We Found Something. You Need More Follow Up Tests.”

As a Newlywed Many years ago I had a health scare. A routine exam turned into, “go to a specialist to get this checked out.” Many phone calls and appointments were made and...more

We’re OK Letting Birth Mom In But Birth Dad is Scary

Question from Kate: I’m close to my son’s birth mother and a few of her family members. But his birth father is incarcerated and is a violent man. I have some things I’d like to send to my son’s birth mom and her family but I’m concerned about disclosing our address because I don’t want … Continue reading We’re OK Letting Birth Mom In But Birth Dad is Scary → The post We’re OK Letting Birth Mom In But Birth Dad is Scary appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

Bubble Soccer. BAM!

Last week my kids participated in Bubble Soccer camp. What is bubble soccer, you may ask? Let my son — they boy in the red shoes — show you ....more

Denying Adoption vs Dwelling on It: When to Tell

Question: We already have an open adoption. My son is 4 years old and I keep wondering: when is a good time to tell him that he was adopted? I still think its too early right now, but when do other parents start to open up about this? ...more

Totes Adorbs

Take a little bit of poodle and add in some bichon. Mix together and you end up with my sweet, sweet, funny, sweet, thoroughly adorable Dexter. (Alert: when you hit play you’ll hear music.) Six Months of Dexter in 15 Seconds More gratuitous Dexter pics are just a click away ....more