My Particular Shade of Gray

Aging is a humbling experience. (I see teens and twenty-somethings who primp and angst about their appearance and want to yell at them, DON’T YOU REALIZE HOW GOOD YOU LOOK WITHOUT EVEN TRYING?) First it was spider veins showing up on my thighs....more

Dear Abby Misses the Mark on Adoption Question

Dear Needs Help in Indiana, It must be exhausting for an adoptee to live in an Either/Or world. If you even think about your birth mom, some will judge you as disloyal to the woman who is raising you....more

Crazy 8

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Math in Nature

Today’s Post Brought to You by the Number 5 and my Hoya Plant I’m fascinated by math in nature. I’m drawn to patterns of all sorts — especially fractals — and I often find myself subconsciously subitizing as I walk along the creek path, checking for interesting formations I observe on plants, animals, rocks, clouds, … Continue reading Math in Nature → The post Math in Nature appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

Paperback Writer

Brief announcement After two years available only in hardcover and e-book formats, my publisher, Rowman & Littlefield, is releasing The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption in paperback in a few weeks. This means two things. First, the book will be available at a paperback price — woo-hoo! ...more

I Don’t Look So Good in Huffy (Found Out the Hard Way)

It’s first period and I’m teaching high schoolers. The end of class is near and I’m starting to worry if...more

It’s Summer O’Clock Somewhere

Spring is still a newborn bald gulping baby bird in the northern hemisphere, but here in Denver we’ve had temperatures in the 70s so I’m prematurely ready to announce Lori’s Summer Drink of 2015. I discovered this concoction in February when Andy came through town and I met her for dinner. So for me this … Continue reading It’s Summer O’Clock Somewhere → The post It’s Summer O’Clock Somewhere appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

Dealing with Adoption’s Ghost Kingdom (and GIVEAWAY)

Part 3: The Role of Mindfulness in Adoption Even though I just completed a 4-part series called Parenting GPS, today I offer you the last part of a different series, a 3 part interview that was originally published in Foster Focus magazine. Get caught up with Part 1 on Adoption at the Movies (how to … Continue reading Dealing with Adoption’s Ghost Kingdom (and GIVEAWAY) → The post Dealing with Adoption’s Ghost Kingdom (and GIVEAWAY) appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

What’s Your Parenting GPS?

What happens when your electronic GPS system doesn’t work?...more

My Teen Wants to Live With His Birth Mom. Now What?

Of all the questions I’ve received while leading workshops and...more