From my personal blog.My laughter echoed into the frightened silence on the other end of the phone.“Oh, come on,” I said, not realizing that the lack of response wasn’t forced. “It’s funny now, but all that stuff you said when we were kids was a joke, right?”Again, there was only silence. Finally, he said, “I don’t like to talk about that anymore. It was scary.”“Right,” I said, still laughing. I finally realized he wasn’t, nor was he working to hold any humor back. “Wait, are you serious?”...more

The First of an Infinite Amount of "Somedays"

I've been feeling discontent.I thought of a billion* different blog posts I could make about it. I half-heartedly began one or two. Ultimately, I just didn't want to put my feelings out there. I was scared that somebody would verbalize what I was pushing down in the back of my mind: "Yeah, you're kind of a big loser, and you can't change that."...more

The Whole Internet Saw What You Did There

I grew up in a family that prepared me for the real world. I don’t mean that they taught me how to cook, do laundry, and clean a bathroom (and if any of my siblings happen to be reading this: I do know how to do all of those things. I just often choose not to. So there). The most important lesson I learned is that you can’t take things back. If you put something out there, be prepared for somebody to have an opinion, and that it might be something that you don’t like....more

4 Suggestions for Would-Be "Social Justice Warriors"

My friend “O” will call you out if you’re being a fool. Recent examples include people who said, ” – but you don’t want to go to that neighborhood, not since all the black people moved in” (O: “What do you mean? No, I don’t know. Tell me. Tell me exactly why I don’t want to go to that neighborhood. Tell me exactly what you mean by ‘since all the black people moved in.’ I really want to know, because I don’t find that decent or atrocious behavior is confined to skin color. Explain what you mean so that I can understand.”), and, “Have you seen [Co-worker]‘s wife?...more

Happy Birthday to Me!

“As the three of them yapped contentedly all the way to the gate, through the lengthy boarding process, onto the plane with its blankets and pillows that gave it the atmosphere of an international slumber party, she felt her face opening into expressions she’d forgotten how to make. Lena remembered herself in all the old familiar things they said. She existed in her friends; there she was. All the parts of herself she’d forgotten. She knew herself best when she was with them.”- from “Sisterhood Everlasting,” by Ann Brashares...more

Let's Talk About S-x

Originally posted at my blog.“Let’s talk about s-x* for now to the people at home or in the crowd; it keeps coming up anyhow. Don’t decoy, avoid, or make void the topic ’cause that ain’t gonna stop it.”- from “Let’s Talk About S-x” by Salt ‘N’ Pepa*(It’s not that I don’t love spambots, but… I don’t love spambots. That’s why the “e” is missing in each instance of the word.)...more

13 Years Later

Originally published at Breath. Smiles. Tears."What you leave behind is the people you loved. You leave yourself in them."- from Sisterhood Everlasting, by Ann Brashares...more

A Legacy of Love: Being Present and Strong

My dad was trying to tell me something a few days before he died. I don’t know what it was. As it did with my mom, the cancer wore down my dad’s body until he could no longer form words. My sister held the phone for him as he made noises. I could hear an urgency in the tones, as well a the effort he was making to be understood. It didn’t change anything. The sounds that came through to me weren’t quite grunts, but sad little staccatos that were nowhere near what he wanted to convey. ...more
I also meant to say your post was so beautifully written. Thank you for writing it.more

I Have 99 Problems But a B- Wait, Wrong Title

Originally posted at Breath. Smiles. Tears....more