Nina

As with many blogs about parenthood, mine started out as an online journal... read more

Is Taking Care of Kids Really the Hardest Job?

I’m guessing you’re exhausted by the time you fall asleep. You may have started your day waking up at an ungodly hour. You go to work which, in comparison, feels like a refuge from the chaos of caring for your kids. Your “day shift” then ends only to continue to the “night shift” of yet more child rearing and housekeeping. Or you’ve been home with the kids and realize this has been more challenging than any day you’ve been paid to work in the past....more
I have a desk job, but since my son is 14 it's always easier to stay at home with him. :) ...more

Why Spanking Isn’t Necessary (And What to Do Instead)

 Rarely in any parenting topic do I absolutely believe something to be right or wrong, even if I don’t follow its tenets. From time-outs, to bed-sharing to helicopter parenting—these are all parenting methods that, while I don’t always follow, acknowledge and respect their functions for each family. Do what works, I would say, just as I would do what works for my family.Spanking, however, is different. I actually believe spanking to be wrong....more

How to have a social life (even if you have kids)

Growing up seems to come at the expense of losing social ties, especially when kids enter the picture. Back in college, every day was a social life; you lived, ate, studied, partied, bumped into and were surrounded with friends. Then you graduate and become “adults,” and gradually the every-day-of-the-week going out turned into only-on-the-weekend hangouts, until eventually you’re just too tired to stay awake past 11pm. Suddenly you find yourself with three kids and few chances to brush your hair, much less look presentable for a friend....more

Don’t do these 8 things when hiring a nanny

Whether you use an agency, an online site or word of mouth, hiring a nanny can be a stressful experience. For many, it’s the first time you’re an employer considering pay rates and conducting searches and interviews. You’ll also be handing the care of your children to someone else, and likely someone you’ve never met. To help you transition smoothly and feel confident and at ease, avoid these following eight mistakes when hiring a nanny:...more
One very important step you forgot was: Pay Your Nanny Legally! Nannies are employees, and you ...more

Should dads wake up for night time feedings?

Should dads wake up for night time feedings, even if mom breastfeeds? Should he break up his sleep even though he goes to work while mom stays home with the baby? For my family, yes. Of course, it’s never that simple, but let me explain why my husband wakes up with the babies even though he works and I’ve been staying home....more

An open letter to parents struggling with twins

Dear parents of twins,If you’re like my husband, you were ecstatic to hear that you were expecting twins. Double the love, right?...more

What have you learned from your children?

Before I became a mom, I assumed that parenting, particularly in the early days, was a one-way street, with parents doing all the giving and the children doing all the taking. After all, babies are so dependent on their parents for everything, and all they can give is a smile in return. Now, however, I understand that it’s often the other way around—that children actually give us so much more than we can ever provide, especially when it comes to what we learn from them, about them, and about ourselves....more

5 reasons why I suck at being a mom sometimes

I’ve had my fair share of mom-fail moments in the three short years I’ve been one, from dragging my tantrum-throwing kid on the floor to yelling at him during bath time. And while we learn from these experiences, I’ve learned that challenges never really stop, and instead simply evolve depending on the current circumstances. Take, for instance, some recent episodes where I sucked at being a mom:...more

How to help your child adjust to a new sibling

I was a little concerned: I had underestimated the effect that bringing two newborns would have on my three-year-old. Sure, the first day was fine—the twins seemed like a novelty, and it was fun to have visitors over. But then he realized that the babies weren’t going anywhere, that mom and dad have less time for him, and his life was changing, from having to be quiet to learning how to do a ton of tasks on his own now. The result? My preschooler started acting up....more

What are you proud of today?

I’m in the throes of the dreadful colic stage—both twins decided to fuss, cry and otherwise refuse to sleep for the last two hours or so. My husband and I have been playing tag team, switching between babies trying to pacify their loud cries. And after all that effort to comfort and finally quiet them down, they cry right back up again in literally three minutes. It hasn’t been a fun evening....more