Why I Was So Disappointed With The Ending of 'Serial'

I like things neat. I like things to have clean conclusions. The ending doesn't have to be positive or even what I want as an ending, but I do prefer there not to be any lingering questions. After listening to the last episode of season one of the Serial podcast, though, lingering questions may be all I'll ever have. ...more
I do not. Serial is journalism. It's real life. Real life isn't often tied up in a neat bow at ...more

How to Find Your Authentic Voice

When I was in elementary school, I declared that I'd be a writer. By high school, though, I was sure I'd go to law school. That too, changed over the years. In college, I had a professor ask me to consider switching my major to English because she enjoyed my writing so much; it would be a "waste of time" to pursue anything else. I wondered if she was high. (To be clear, I hadn't yet declared a major, so, perhaps I was high. No, really. Maybe I was. It was the late '90s and I don't need your judgment. Great, now I'm off track.) ...more
Love your post! I can so relate. Thank you for sharing. I couldn't agree more. Especially, the ...more

Banish Your Family And Prepare Yourself Because The Purple One Is On SNL This Weekend

I have instructed my family to get all their requests in on Saturday before 11:28 p.m. because by 11:30 I’ll be in a trance. I need those two minutes to mentally prepare for the beginning of a Saturday Night Live that won’t soon be forgotten, an SNL that will include (deep, meditating breath) Prince. Did that register in your mind? If so, did you flap your hands before fanning your face trying to get your blood pressure under control? ...more
NikkiG Listen to me, NIkkiG -- there is not one thing in that show outside of Prince that you ...more

On Refusing to Allow Viola Davis' Talent To Be Limited By Racial Commentary

No matter our professional and personal and societal accomplishments as black women, we will be seen as less than. No matter the strides we make beyond being maids, we will be seen as less than. We will be qualified with “for a black woman.” That’s a beautiful painting for a black woman. She’s an incredible dancer for a black woman. Image: © Lisa O'Connor/ZUMAPRESS.com ...more
This is a powerful post! I loved it! I agree that it is absolutely insane that people can only ...more

What's In a (Starbucks) Name?

Amoeba. Armenia. Ambibia. Ar-na-by...what's your name, baby? It's rare for someone to say my name correctly on the first try. It happens, but it's rare. I've been called all of those above and a few others that make less sense. And by less sense I mean less sense of a seemingly normal person who thought Amoeba could be correct. ...more
I get misspellings all the time too. I'm most commonly named Brittany or Brenda. Or an extra ...more

The Other Side of the Weight Spectrum: Being Too Thin

This is not a pity party. I am relatively healthy, of sound mind (albeit occasionally debatable). I love myself, I do. I practice self worth in front of my girls, never complain about my [under]weight. I am happy and free and in love with my body in front of them. Oh, I can give the performance you've never imagined. But inside my head? Ugly. Skinny. Tittyless. Meatless. You're always cold because you don't have enough meat on your bones. No one wants you. Your husband is pretending. Your girls are destined to follow the skinny path. Make them some potatoes. ...more
AlmaPacheco I'm in the same boat, 27 years old, 5'3, 96lbs (and thats because i've been fighting ...more

I Did Nothing While She Hurled Abuses At Them

I imagined her saying I don't need your help. Truth be told, I didn't have anything to help her with other than maybe talking to her kids while she zoned out for a while. My daughter and I got on the bus, our first day of catching it together. Our first day of her getting off and transferring to another to go to school; me staying on to get on the subway, me staying on to watch her walk to a bus stop that leaves a lot to be desired as far as safety. Please pay attention to your surroundings. Please. ...more
Well said and described. the torn anxiety, the anger, the sorrow and the helplessness in the ...more

The Other One

I love my name. Now. Growing up, I hated it. I had to repeat it so many times. I had to spell it. I had to clarify b as in boy and n as in Nancy. I have allowed myself to be called Amoeba more times than I care to recall or count....more

That Time My Kid Was Kicked Out of Daycare

When you hear that someone's child was removed from daycare you immediately think the child was a menace, right? The child threw things or the parents didn't pay or something else unpleasant? Well, I'm here to tell you that that's not always the case. Based on income, our family qualified for a discounted child care rate. For the first year he was there, we paid one amount. When we were due to re-certify, it was determined that we no longer qualified for the discount. Unfortunately, we weren't given any notice about that decision, just a letter in his cubby dated for that day that stated his last day was that day. I'm sorry, but WHAT?...more
@Delusional MomI'd like to think that I'm adult enough to see the child apart from the parent. ...more

Post Halloween Harangue

It's day two of NaBloPoMo and I'm talking about Halloween. What, you were expecting me to be all thought provoking right off the bat? Let me work up to it, kay?...more