And Yet

How did they do it? How did they stand it? I know they didn't stand for it, largely, but at home, in the quiet, how did they cope? I imagine they must have cried like I do, at the injustices they see. I imagine they were afraid. I'm afraid. I feel ridiculous because of course things haven't come to the debilitating, inhumane ways of segregation.And yet.I'm afraid to go to the movies, to be downtown near the White House, be in large public spaces. I'm afraid to tell my children that this is why we haven't gone certain places. Because I am afraid to be there....more

The Capacity of My Heart

Sometimes I'm a wizard. I can care about and talk about more than one current event. What's fascinating is my talking about one event doesn't diminish my heartache, upset, interest, or desire and determination to help, somehow, those affected by another event....more

No More Blind Dates

Yesterday's post got me thinking about the few dates I had in high school. Here's a post from 2011 that describes a particularly awful one:...more

Girl. Woman. Girl. Girl. Girl. Girl.

She was 14, maybe. Her mom or caregiver yanked her by the arm, and hissed, "What is wrong with you?" ...more
Diane DeBella If I could bottle or sell that last sentence, Diane, we'd both be better off.more

Mind the Gap

There is a divide. At 42, I recognize the divide and even embrace it at times. I don't always know what my daughters are talking about in relation to music. I like new artists, but I'd much rather enjoy my fall-backs: Prince, the artist formerly known as Prince, and, well, Prince.I listen to what they like and roll my eyes.But there's a gap. I know this. Tonight, I hope I closed it a bit....more

One of These Days

One day soon I'm going to write something worth sending you an email when I post it. Today is not that day.  This month of posting has shown me own specific thing: I am not a nighttime blogger. I can write at night, but it should never be something I'm intending on publishing right then....more

Things to Read

Here are a few great reads from the week, with no further commentary on any (mainly because I'm tired and it's late, but each stands alone in its reasons for being worth a share. Just read):

NaBloPoMo Day 14 Says What?

Him, getting into the van: Wait! I see candy under there.Me: Under denotes fallen. That means don't eat it.Him, pullling the Nerd out: Why, cause it was under my butt?Me: Do you think that's reason enough?Him: I don't know. Is butt candy bad?Her, walking up: Do you have any gum?Me: NoHim: No, but I have something elseMe: Don't say--Him: BUTT CANDY!...more

Navigating Social Media During a National Emergency

There are time zones. There are people who simply haven't heard yet. There are scheduled tweets and Twitter users who aren't reading their timeline as they post random cat pictures.Don't condemn them because you are uber aware....more

Throwback Thursday to Snowmageddon

I'm not one for winter and its cold dreariness, but I'm actually looking forward to a bit of snow. Just a bit, mind, not a repeat of snow to my knees for over a week. Right when you thought no more sky droppings could happen, there more came. There more came.See the image to this post, here....more
Denise Arnebya I'm not sure how I got pulled into this, but since snow is being mentioned, YAY ...more