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Traveler, writer, childhood cancer survivor navigating the world of infertility,... read more

Processing Advice for Expectant Moms via Surrogacy

There seems to be no shortage of advice for visibly expectant moms. But what about those of us approaching parenthood from different places? As an expectant mom via gestational surrogacy, the tried and true pregnancy tomes are helpful (kinda, sorta, I guess) but there’s often no room to get to my questions, the ones specific to our situation. Having a baby that’s gestating several states away from you brings with it its own set of questions, worries and concerns that you, as a soon-to-be-mom, are doing everything right, or as right as can be. ...more
This was great. We are at almost 28 weeks now with a gestational carrier and I wish we had seen ...more

Tracking Your Life on Your Blog Sidebar: Are You a Self-Quantifier?

I’m older now. My checklists and charts are now mostly electronic. But they are still there. It seems they may have even multiplied.  Before I walk anywhere, I turn the pedometer on in one of my handy phone apps. Every weekend, I make a list of things to do, activities to complete, food to make and systematically check the items off on my iPad, keeping track of what was done, what still needs to be completed. I’ve tried time and time again to keep a food journal – that eventually fades out after a few days – but I know people who swear by programs like Lose It to keep them focused on their weight loss goals. Running almost never happens without my RunKeeper app coming along with me. (why’s that girl running with her phone? Oh non-quantifier, you wouldn’t understand.) ...more
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Burn the Journals! (But Don’t Forget to Back up the Blog)

When I journaled (high school, college, living abroad), there was always at least one person in my life that was given the directive, "If anything ever happens to me, get to my apartment, burn the journals. You must. Promise me."  Said with all of the drama and urgency a twenty something could muster.  My journals were the deepest darkest me, the naughtiest me, me at my most confident and me feeling most vulnerable. I wrote about everything and anything, but mostly I wrote about me.  Me trying to comprehend the world around me. You know, just trying to figure sh*t out. And sometimes it all looked a bit messy. The thought of anyone getting into those parts of my life terrified me. And now, what terrifies me more is the opposite - the thought of my blog vanishing, somehow being erased, inaccessible, to me or to anyone else. Oh the horror! What's happened? What's changed? ...more
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