"Mom To Be"
I decided to address the issue I have with this phrase because it really does bother me. While we were pregnant, I heard it quite often. Everyone says it, whether male or female whether they have children or not, it just seems like the phrase to say. I don't like it. I don't like it because it connotes that by being pregnant you have not yet reached the world of mommyhood. I beg to differ. Simply by being pregnant you are a mommy.
It takes mommy thinking to actually aid in the growth of the baby you are carrying. Thinking such as....what foods to eat and their effect on the growing baby, what medications to take or not, thinking of ways to nurture baby while in the womb, not drinking, limiting caffeine, and increasing your food intake. These are just a few of the things that have 'evidence', if you will. But there are other things, such as staying away from sick people so as not to get sick yourself, thinking of any tests and how they may affect the baby, trying to keep additional stressors low, sleeping more, buying clothing you can fit or risking not every going out of the house for at least 5-6 months before baby arrives. Then there are the physical changes that women undergo as well. Those physical changes take quite a bit of time to recover from. As I've mentioned before the postpartum body takes awhile to reconfigure itself.
In other words, all I'm saying is we should all give expectant women recognition of their mommy status even if their child hasn't yet been born. There is a bit of work that goes into growing a child, during both pregnancy and after. The workload increases and becomes busier after baby is born, but that doesn't mean there isn't quite a bit of busy-ness while pregnant too. There are the preparations, even if a full nursery isn't set-up, medical/midwife appointments, registering, financial planning/stability, relationship changes (yes, even friends may change), emotional changes. There are so many changes that a pregnant woman undergoes which aren't, at least in my opinion, "mom to be" tasks and changes, they are simply mom changes.
Tell me what you think about the phrase "mom to be". Does it bother you or not? Do you agree or disagree with my opinion?