The man in my dreams is NOT my boyfriend
Lately I have been dreaming about a man, I can’t see his face and I don’t know who he is; but for some reason I can’t stop dreaming about him when I am asleep, and I can’t stop thinking about him when I am awake.
When I dream of him I am happy because he makes me feel special; but at the same time I am sad, because the man in my dreams is not my boyfriend. For the past 14 years my boyfriend has always been the only man in my dreams, but now I think that my dreams are telling me that I want more from my relationship. Is it ok to dream about another man(even if you don’t know who he is) when you have a boyfriend?
What is your dream trying to tell you?
The man in my dreams holds me tight and he is affectionate. When we walk down the street holding hands everyone looks at us with envy. It is the exact same look of envy that I have now when I see couples who are in love with their best friend. I love my boyfriend and we are definitely friends (14 years will do that to a couple), but he is not affectionate, not even in private. I am not sure if the passion in my relationship is truly gone, or if our daily routine is just the symptom of a young love that has grown old.
I want the type of boyfriend who can’t stand to be without me, but who gives me my personal space. I want a boyfriend who smiles every time he sees me, and who makes me smile. When I am sick my boyfriend takes care of me and for that I am grateful. I love my boyfriend and I know he loves me. I can’t picture my life without him, but I am not sure if I see a future for us if we don’t have passion and affection.
It’s ok to dream, isn’t it?
I don’t think that I am a needy girlfriend but every now and then I need to feel the love. Evert now and then a little kiss on the cheek here and a little hug there would be greatly appreciated.
I want to feel sexy with someone. I want the type of passion from a boyfriend that makes me want to spend every minute of every day with him. I don’t want to spend every minute of every day with someone just because we live together. I want my boyfriend to bring me flowers because he knows it will make me happy. I want a boyfriend who buys me something for no reason just because he knows I will like it. It’s not about the gift, it’s about the gesture. I need a grand gesture to know that he still cares.
What do you really want in your relationship?
I want a boyfriend who goes out of his way to make me happy, because my happiness makes him happy. I know that relationships are about compromise. I feel that I am giving up a lot to be in a relationship with my boyfriend but he isn’t really sacrificing anything to be with me.
Every now and then I would like to have a boyfriend who puts my happiness before his own. Isn’t that what relationships are all about? Compromise and sacrifice for the one that you love.
Maybe the man in my dreams is someone’s way of telling me that I will eventually be happy in my relationship. Maybe the man in my dreams is someone’s way of telling me that there is another man out there (somewhere) in the world for me. Or maybe the man in my dreams will just continue to be a happy thought about the type of relationship that I wish I was in.
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