International Clitoris Awareness Week: How Aware Are You?

International Clitoris Awareness Week: How Aware Are You?

It’s the first annual International Clitoris Awareness Week (May 6th thru 12th). I can only assume you are prepared with fleshy tones of icing and little sugar pearls for vulva cupcakes made special to feed guests at your Clit Awareness Discussion party later in the week…or maybe this is the first time you heard about it. Clitoraid, the organization that created this most special of weeks, is staying focused on the positive aspects of clit owning for this event, but they usually can’t. They’re a group that helps repair genital mutilation. Now, clearly, getting part of your clit cut off is incredibly terrible. But another thing that’s kinda bad is living in a country where we ladies are lucky enough to not worry so much about our clits being mangled, and yet squandering that fortunate circumstance by misunderstanding, ignoring, or under using the awesomeness that is the clit.   

 

 

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I’m just gonna say it. We live in a society that is clit dumb or clignorant, if you will. Do you remember when you were in middle school health class and the teacher explained what a clitoris was, where it exists on the body and that when it’s stimulated, it leads to orgasm? Of course you don’t. But you do remember them telling you about what part on a boy was meant for sexual pleasure, what physical act that part might be used in to create orgasm, and then what happened during his orgasm. Granted, you were told all that in so many words only because that information coincides with explaining reproduction; penis into vagina = ejaculation. Sex ed's not exactly comprehensive for the dudes either, but at least they could incorporate what they saw out in the world, like from movies and stuff, and infer how the orgasm part worked. It’s not so easy for us ladies. If you were like most of the world, you just assumed that it worked the same for women; p in v = orgasm. Well...not so much.

Only about 30% of women claim to orgasm regularly during vaginal intercourse. That’s not a lot, and certainly not as good as the guys are doing. Now, that’s a whole helluva lot of vag stimulating with very few orgasms. You know what I think this situation needs? More clit stim, baby. That’s where it’s at. When women masturbate their clits, we can come as quickly, easily, and reliably as men do when they masturbate. Our lady bits work just fine when the right parts are being stimulated. Unfortunately, this all tells me that we’re ignoring our poor clits when we’re having sex, and it’s to our orgasmic detriment.

Speaking of orgasms, porn is full of women faking them. It’s also excessively full of P in V banging and rather light on clit stim. When the clit does get some action, it’s largely decorative, something pretty to watch for a minute before getting to the good stuff. Porn heavily insinuates that vaginal stimulation is what gets us off and pretty much ignores the clit as anything but a starter button. But it’s not just porn. The giganto Romance Novel industry is a bit more clit friendly, but it’s still always playing second fiddle to the vagina. Yeah, the heroine will probably get a little clit diddling – oral, manual, whatever. She might even have an orgasm as a result, but the scene can’t end unless she also has one of those classic loin-quivering, brain-frying, melting-as-one-into-the-universe O’s due to a good old fashioned ram fest. Everywhere we look, it seems orgasms come from vag not clit stim. However, as we already discussed, that’s not true for at least 70% of us (and if you want to go further into my rabbit hole I suspect it’s a lot more of us than that).

 If you’re still wondering why you should even care about ol’ Delores the clitoris, then let me just say this. Our sexuality is a deeply personal and important part of our lives. It affects our health, our self-esteem, our mental well-being, our relationships and marriages, and we deserve a fighting chance to achieve the kind of sexual life we desire. A world that ignores and misunderstands the one part of our body that is used exclusively for sexual pleasure is a world that does not have our best interest at heart.

I say, on this week of clit, that we all take some small personal steps in a better direction. Maybe…

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