Lessons learned along the way
In having these wonderful parties with my sisters and some of the most outrageous women, I have gain many lessons in life.
We have done over ten parties and I have talked to over twenty women. Lessons about men, about sex and about life, that keep coming back to me over and over again. You see the same thing that happened to Mrs. Jackson,77, at the ripe old age of 55 is happening to Melani who is thirty five. I wouldn’t believe it if I didn’t hear it, but most men are the same or is it women. Here are the lessons – see what happened was…
Lesson 1 – A man is a man and not a woman.
If a man has his orgasm before you, he will leave, fall asleep or help you out. Most of the time he will do the first two. A man thinks he has done his best because you have done all that screaming and yelling. He thinks he has hit that spot more than one time. One vs twenty. Men are not mind reader nor are they women in asking several times what else they need to do.
Shaleya is a happily married twenty eight year old. Her husband, who works two jobs, comes home, takes a shower, east and goes to bed. Sometime during the night he rolls her over and crawls on top of her. Before she knows it, he is done. She wants to toys to finish what he aint willing to do.
I just told her, “Tell him what he is doing wrong, what he is doing right and what he should never do to you again. He is just using what he tried on the last woman and a little of what made you go “YEAH!”
She looked at me as if I had told her something outrageous, and liked it.
She bought fifty dollars more.
Lesson 2 – A man will only do what you let him do
If you let him have sex with your best friend and don’t confront him in a way that will cause him to reevaluate himself to do right by you, you are wrong. That’s right you are wrong. He can only do what you allow. Janet told me about her boyfriend. She just bought a few toys that would drive a man crazy if he was one of those men who knew how to have fun. She told me how she found out he had a few girls on the side. She didn’t like it and couldn’t believe what he told her. Keep in mind that she was doing everything for him. He was driving her car, staying at her house and eating her food. He told her that their relationship was not as intense as she thought it was.
“I am going to make it a point to let him see what I bought. I am going to let him see me play with the toys. When he wants to have sex I am going to tell him to go to the other women. In fact, he can call them up now so they can come and get him. He can drive their car, stay at their house and eat their food, because I am the woman who needs a man to be in a relationship that is intense.” She had a smile on her face as she stuffs the purchases in her purse and walked out the door.
Lesson 3 – Sometimes you can’t get a good man back the same way he left.
Alexis was excited over the thought of getting a few toys, lotions and potions.
“I am going to call my friend over to help me play with all of this.” She smiled as she looked over a few more things. “I let him slip away, but this will bring him back to me. He calls me late at night and we get away to the park or in his mother driveway.”
“I am so sorry he cheated on you.”
“No I cheated on him with this guy from work who was no good for me.” She placed a few more items into a pile. “Girl, Charlie, he is the good one. He loved me and I didn’t know. I thought I wanted more of something that the guy from work could give me. I have to get him back, but he has changed. He is not like he was.”