How To Never Fail At Gift Giving Again

How To Never Fail At Gift Giving Again

My girlfriends think he is a dream husband. On the weekends, he does the laundry, makes the beds, goes grocery shopping, cooks dinner, and then cleans the dishes afterwards. As much as I am grateful for his hard work, sometimes this whirling dervish of a househusband is so busy we don’t get any time together, and I end up feeling unloved. Meanwhile, he thinks his acts of service are screaming, “I love you” with every folded sock.

Once we understood how the other experienced and showed love, things got a lot easier for us. Now when my husband insists on spending the weekend cleaning out the garage, I know he is, in his own way, loving me. Instead of complaining, I join him. Or, I don’t and I realize he is loving me in his own special way.

My husband is finally fluent in my love language, as well. For our recent anniversary, he didn’t give me an expensive piece of jewelry. Instead, he gave me the perfect gift: a trip to Italy, together.

As we head into the holidays, think carefully about your beloved’s love language. It can save you time and money. But most importantly, it can save you from that feeling of disappointment, sadness and even anger when the gift you give is not received in the way you intended. As the poet Antonio Porchia wrote, 

“I know what I have given you. I do not know what you have received.”

Check out BlogHer Turtle and Leaf’s great write up on the Five Love Languages 

BlogHer Jennie writes about her husband’s loving misstep on her blog, A Lady in France. 

Sometimes the best gifts are the ones you give yourself. Last year, BlogHer Blogs & Social Media Section Editor Melissa Ford suggested you give yourself the gift of a self-hosted blog. I think the advice is evergreen.

Happy holidays to you and yours.

Gloria Steinem once said, "The first problem for all of us, women and men, is not to learn but to unlearn." I am working on unlearning each and every day. How about you? Lisen

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