How TV Helped Me Talk to My Kids About "The Gays"
Fortunately, my kids have grown up watching strong gay couples on television, and even Disney recently showed a two-mom family on Good Luck Charlielast season.
That’s why when one of my other daughter’s exclaimed loudly at the end of an episode of Property Brothers, “Are they kissing?”—I knew it was because she always says that when she sees people kiss, not just because it was two women that just moved into their dream home.
But this time I seized the opportunity.
“Yep, they’re kissing, because they are married. Boys can kiss boys, girls can kiss girls, and boys can kiss girls. Love is love, and you should kiss and marry whomever you love.”
I expected some questions or dialogue about it, but instead all I got was, “Yeah, I know. Can we watch the Disney Channel now?”
I sighed, and begrudgingly switched the channel to yet another episode of Dog with a Blog or Jessie or some other mind-numbing show. It was okay though, because I didn’t need a big speech for my kids to accept other people. I realized that simply by my husband and I not talking poorly about any “group,” my kids have learned to judge by behavior…not race, creed, religion, or even (unknowingly) sexuality.
I wish I could say it was some part of our master parenting plan, but it wasn’t. Apparently sometimes the best parenting tactics do come out of dumb luck.
And that was how I talked to my kids about “The Gays.”
Have you had conversations like these with your kids? How did you handle it?
Are you wondering how to discuss this issue with your kids? I encourage you to read this article written by gay dad Jerry Mahoney in the blog Scary Mommy awhile back. It offers honest, humorous, refreshing tips on how to answer any questions your kids may have.
Disclaimer: I understand that this post will not appeal to everyone. I know that I have friends, family and readers who feel and believe differently than I do, and I can only say that I respect your right to your own viewpoints, just as I know you have always respected mine.