Can Grandparents Be Too Involved?
It bothered me that her statement was "we thought we would..." and not "Would it be ok with you if..." I would always much prefer a straight question as opposed to a beat-around-the-bush statement that suggests we don't have an option in the matter. My husband and I are both annoyed by this way of communicating. However, despite the fact that this is how she "asked," is it unfair of me to say no -- and am I saying no simply because I am annoyed?
Am I really not ready to let my 18-month-old be away from me for a night, or am I reacting to my personal feelings about my in-laws, or about the family politics that might come up because of it. I'm quite certain that my in-laws are taking for granted that my daughter will come stay with them when we go to the hospital to have another baby, and this has never been expressly asked or stated. And it kind of annoys me that they assume this.
I'm looking for input here, from unbiased people. I love that my daughter adores her Grandparents, and I do enjoy how "hands-on" they are, but are they overdoing it a bit? And if they are, is the fact that they are overdoing it simply because my family is so different? How do I deal with all of this?
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