As it turned out, “True Grit” wasn’t the standard he-man saves the pretty little woman kind of western I was used to watching on TV. It showed a gritty kind of reality. Unclean (as in dirty) people, grim living conditions, harsh enviornments, and a whole cast of unpleasant characters. Even the main characters weren’t an easy like.
The young damsel Mattie (Kim Darby) was not only more determined than distressed, she was downright rude. That she didn’t wear enough make-up and eyeliner to sink the titanic was a surprising if welcome relief. (Remember this was the late 60’s when it was hip to wear eyeliner applied with a trowel.) And, shockingly, she didn’t use sex or romance to get her way.
Mattie badgered people. She got in their face. And she yelled.
Using equal parts money, threats and unrelenting determination, Mattie hires a drunken and reluctantUS Marshal, Rooster Cogburn (John Wayne) to track down and bring her father’s murderer, Tom Chaney, to justice in Arkansas before a handsome Texas Ranger called LaBoeuf (Glen Campbell) could haul the murderer off to Texas — dead or alive.
Of course bad guys run in packs, so Wayne and Campbell try to even out their odds by becoming uneasy allies. When Mattie forces them to take her along, they relegate her to outcast status in their little trio. But every step of the way Mattie fights to prove that she is not a helpless victim nor the weakest link. Without brute strength or the ability to use physical force, without beauty or sex, she uses her knowledge, skills and other people’s underestimations of her to get her way and help them (and her) to achieve their goals – get Tom Chaney.
There is an iconic moment in the movie when Wayne rides into enemy fire with both guns a blazing and the reins of his well-trained horse between his teeth. The scene is big and dramatic and oh-so visible. Here, I thought, this is the “true grit” of the movie title. And yet repeatedly throughout the movie Mattie out grits the guys. So much so, that by the end of the movie Wayne all but acknowledges Mattie as the one with True Grit.
So what gave young Mattie the edge over a US Marshal and a Texas Ranger when it came to Grit?
Grit is About Using Adversity.
Sure, when faced with adversity, Mattie showed resiliency and persistence in spades. But grit is about more than endurance and overcoming adversity. Mattie actually used her struggles to learn what she needed in order to propel herself forward.
Grit is About Believing in Oneself.
While the men had far more experience — and bravado, Mattie’s belief in herself ran deeper and truer. Despite the odds, despite the social norms of the times and despite the almost continual pressure to conform and act as a girl … Mattie believes in her own unique abilities, priorities and goals.
Grit is About Having A Purpose.
Mattie wasn’t motivated by money or ego, as the men were. She believed in their mission to catch Tom Chaney. She was passionate about the success and she was energized to see it completed because it was personal to her. She had a purpose.
Grit is About Changing Outcomes.
Mattie believed she had the ability to make a difference, maybe even “the” difference in making sure her father’s killer was brought to justice, therefore, her actions mattered. Mattie took action because she believed she had the power to change the fate of herself and others.
Yes, John Wayne got the big screen moment and an Academy Award for showing a gritty nature, but Kim Darby (Mattie) showed what True Grit is really about – the will to not just survive, but to believe in your purpose and your ability to make a difference even when the odds and the bad guys are stacked against you.
Thank you, Uncle Jerry, for showing me Mattie and helping me find my own true grit!
Do you honor your grit? Was there a person that inspired you to develop grit? Do you have a favorite book or movie character that showed grit?