When I think of my best friends, the other Virtual Moms, I think of friendships built on years and years of long-distance small talk highlighted by surprising and delightful bursts of deep, shared insight. We’re all so busy—after all we’re moms—and usually only have time for a check in, an affirmation here and there, and a quick cyber shoulder to cry on.
I’m amazed at how deeply connected we’ve all become through such casual and hurried communication. The sentiment is, even if I can only chat online or by phone for a minute, I’m still here for you, and you’re still there for me. Somehow, these drive-by friendly communications have grown into such strong friendships that most of us have scrounged up some excuse to travel across the continent to meet each other and put three-dimensional faces to the people we’ve grown to care about so deeply.
Last night’s chat room was filled with just us Coasters: Skye from the west, and me from the east. Or us wicked witches, I suppose. Seven in the evening for her means ten o’clock at night on the east coast, which in New York City time means early evening. I was nearly falling asleep at the keyboard and blabbering incoherently about bangle bracelets and the weather, and Skye was also clearly over-worked and very busy. Despite our schedules and energy levels, it means so much to us to be there for a quick check-in. Somehow, even scattered small talk across long distances with people you love and relate to makes life feel less lonely. When I check in with Skye, even if we only speak for a little while, I’m getting a taste of an entire, amazing, person with a whole life out there somewhere who cares about me.
On that note, off again I go!