Is "Fear" Your Lover?
Escaping a difficult relationship can be so life-changing and eye-opening. You begin to view life differently. You're now able to do things you weren't able to do before and appreciate people you might have taken for granted. Let's face it, it's a challenge--moving on--but as you continue down the journey--your life takes a whole new meaning.
As a single woman, you're also able to "reflect" on what has happened, where things might have gone wrong, and when ignored red flags were waved.
This free time---chance for reflection, individualism, exploration and rejuvenation- is a necessity before considering a new relationship. It takes time to get your groove back and there's no rush. Seek counsel --which you probably need although you don't think so. Depression is common after heartbreak...and you shouldn't deal with it alone.
Some might say that "getting back out there" is just not worth it---that there's too many "unqualified men" in the world. Well, that statement is based on fear...not experience...because noone has "dated" every man in the world. There are very good, single men in the world...you just have to be patient, but diligent in your search for him. And yes, I did say "search". I am not a believer that you should just "sit" and "wait" for Mr. Right. He will not know how to find you if you don't get out and experience the world...and this is only "when you're ready". If you need time (and maybe therapy) to get over and past your last relationship, it should be done, first.
However, don't deprive yourself of love. Real love. It is out there ---and when you're REALLY ready...it will be waiting for you.
I found a quote that states that "avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure...the 'fearful' are caught as often as the bold"--by Helen Keller. I believe this statement to be true.
Nothing is guaranteed., but the proverbial "I can do bad by myself" is SO TRUE. And you just might...so take a chance on love...give it another chance...you will be surprised at how you can discern the sorry ones from the winners. Trust yourself...trust your judgement...because you are wiser now. I met my honey online and maybe you should get your groove back, too!
What is your biggest concern about dating someone new?