Don't Catch Feelings For Me, Bro.
We've done it. We've had sex with someone, with whom we didn't necessarily want a relationship. (Come on, its okay, I hope it was good.) Although you (like me) have done it, you may not have had an "arrangement" or a "situation" in which you are friends, or less than friends, but make a decision to be monogamous, however, only for the mind-blowing sex. Armed with a "Be gone before the lights come on" clause, we plow ahead into the throws of remarkable sex, and its AMAZING!
But what happens, when we go from living without the ties of a relationship + great sex to one of us having feelings for the other, and they are not reciprocated. All of a sudden we go from sex to.....awkward.....
It drove me crazy when it happened to me, I went from this
Him: You coming over, right?
Me: Give me 5 minutes.
Him: Hey, how is your day going? I haven't seen you in days...
Me: I've been busy.
Him: Too busy for me? You wanna come over and watch a movie?
In a word? "Nah."
The next thing you know, he's texting everyday, and asking me if I want to try being together, and not just mid-stroke. When I turn him down, he asks if we can still be friends. Of course, because he's not a bad guy, I agree, and he uses this "friendship" to make his proposal several times over until I abandon his "friendship" completely.
People, listen, and listen closely. Lean into your screen so you catch this.
There is nothing wrong with "catching feelings". The issue is, when your "fuck-buddy" doesn't reciprocate and has made you aware, and you keep trying. Dude. Move on.
No one likes the feeling of unreciprocated love/like/lust. No one. However, no one likes someone who doesn't get the picture when they've made their lack of feelings clear. Sometimes we just want the sex, and if you find it difficult to separate love/like and sex, then make your sexual partner aware of that fact. If we turn you down, move on. Please.