DOES NOT WANT TO MAKE IT OFFICIAL BUT YET TELLS ME HOW MUCH IN LOVE HE IS WITH ME...?
Ok, I am 31 & he's 33 yrs old. So we are not kids. I met a guy on a online dating site about 7 months ago. We hit it off rite away. Perfect couple, i would say. I love him, he is the greatest man that has come to my life. He treats me like a queen in every way & he's always there for me through thick & thin. From the 1st day we met he had told me that he didnt want a relationship, since he has been in relationships all his life & just had ended one 6 months from meeting me. We hit it off strong! Started being intimate with each other. We met each others close friends & families. He's family loves me & my family loves him for me. He tells everyone how deep in love he's with me & he's not affraid to scream it to everyone. He's great with my kids. We go to each others events. Everyone always sees us together & everyone believes that we are a couple. We only have eyes for each other. He always tells me how deep in love he has fallen for me & i feel the same for him. He tells me that he would drop anything to go out of his way to see me and till now, he has proved thats true.
A couple of months back i saw him in the site we met, i confronted him about it, but he states that he has not met anyone in person after me. That he's in love with me and that he will never loose me, but yet he doesnt want a relationship, because he needs to be single for a while and think about just himself, & find himself. Mind u, he's telling me he loves me & acting like my boyfriend. I tried breaking up whatever we had but yet he never lets me go, he says he loves me to much and cannot loose me. That he will be in my life for the rest of my life and i love him too.
Yesterday he was back on the site we met, so i decided to make a profile aswell. He saw me online and i saw him. He called me but didn't mentioned anything. I was really dry with him. Then i told him that i didnt want anything with him because i dont understand, what he wants. He yelled at me saying that he is single and he can be in any site he pleases & i cannot say anything because he's a single man. Aftewards he said he was sorry and that he loves me & cannot loose me. Yet he refuses to delete the profile. I told him that i cannot be with him if he's not going to make a commitment, he says that we are not friends with benefits because he's in love with me & im the only 1 that he's with. But yet i want to be serious in my eyes and everyones eyes. How im i supposed to introduce him to people, as my friend, my boyfriend or just his name? I don't want to feel that im just wasting my time with a guy who is never going to make me his girlfriend.
MY QUESTIONS ARE....
If you say you love me, why cant you make it official? Everyone around us knows we are together.
If you love me & you say im the perfect woman for you in every way and need, why do you find the need to still look for woman on a dating site?
If you want to be single, why are you in a fake relationship with me? Cause you are spending every single time of your single life with me. So what exactly does the title being "single" consists of?
Im so confused. I love him & have no doubt that he loves me too, but i don't understand his game.
AND WHAT HURTS THE MOST IS THAT 1 CLOSE FRIEND OF MINE TOLD ME THAT WHEN A MAN SAYS HE DOESN'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU THEY MEAN IT. IS THIS REALLY TRUE? I THOUGHT I COULD CHANGE HIS MIND, SINCE HE'S IN LOVE WITH ME. BUT THERE IS NO WAY...I WILL GET THE DAMM "GIRLFRIEND" TITLE FROM HIM.
PLEASE, I WOULD LOVE YOUR OPINIONS, BOTH MALES & FEMALES.
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