Deep-Throating 101: 3 Ways to Improve Your Gag Reflex

Deep-Throating 101: 3 Ways to Improve Your Gag Reflex

You're a woman who enjoys performing oral sex on your male lovers. Either you've been doing it for years or you only recently came to love it, but it's your thing. Unfortunately, you've been struggling with going deeper; the idea of deep-throating makes you gag (literally!) and you want to take your skills to the next level. I have a few tips that just might help you out. (Note: I am considerate of people who have battled with eating disorders and for whom gagging/purging has been an issue. This blog will discuss some things that might be triggering, so please exercise self-care before continuing)

Look In Your Bathroom Cabinet

You already have one of the most valuable tools to help you improve your skills-- a toothbrush! The biggest issue with gagging is that when something tickles the back of your throat, your reaction is usually to try and force it back out. It's an instinctive survival reaction to protect you from choking. It doesn't kick in when you're eating because you're consciously chewing and swallowing food that bypasses triggering that reflex. However, when you're filling your mouth, all the way back to your throat, with something other than manageable food, your body reacts. 

One way to reduce this reaction is to become used to feeling it. You can take a toothbrush with soft bristles and use it to sweep the back of your tongue where you're the most sensitive. Take 30 seconds in the morning and 30 seconds in the evening to simply brush the back of your tongue in a side-to-side sweeping motion. At first, you'll gag. Remove the toothbrush, breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth, and try again. You're not trying to induce vomiting-- you just want to get yourself used to having an object at the back of your throat for more than a few seconds at a time.

 

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Image: Morgan via Flickr

Look In the Kitchen

Similar to toothbrushes, spoons can be used to stimulate the back of your tongue and your throat in slight ways to which you can become accustomed. Simply take a spoon and graze it along your tongue towards the back. As it tickles and you feel the gag, pause, breathe deep, exhale, and try again until you don't feel sick.

You can use fruit or vegetables to practice on, too! Bananas, carrots, zucchini, squash, any oblong fruit or vegetable can help. You can practice fellating your lover before actually being there with your lover if you get creative. Using food is a two-for: you can practice the fellating itself and work on your gag reflex at the same time. 

Look In Your Bedroom

If you’re like me, you have at least one sex toy. Many sex toys are shaped to resemble penises in shape, but we rarely put them in our mouths, especially when we have access to the real thing. However, they can help you work on your gag reflex if you use them to practice your form. Slowly put the toy in your mouth, inch-by-inch, until it gets far into the back. Again, remember to breathe in and out and keep calm. You can do this!

These simple tips can help many people improve their gag reflexes so they can improving their deep-throating skills. I caution against using any throat numbing sprays because you don’t want to dull the sensation completely to the point when you don’t know when enough is enough. You simply want to practice becoming used to the feeling and learning how to manage it in the most intimate moments.

 

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