Dear Mrs. Hall judge not a teenage girl for how she dresses for you were one too.
To judge or not to judge, herein lies the problem.
I usually stay out of discussions like this, I much prefer lighter topics, life dishes enough without adding to it but I feel I need to say something about shaming young girls on the internet.
Shame on you. I don't care if you have good intentions or not, instead of pointing your finger and telling your boys to de-friend someone on the basis of how they dress is wrong. You should teach them not to judge a package by its paper.
It's funny how we stress about bullying and peer pressure and then WE decide to publicly shame teenage girls with the pretense of giving advice.
We were in their shoes once, don't we all have shameful pictures somewhere? Are we really that afraid of them?
I have boys. They are too young to be interestead in girls right now, but I'm trying to teach them not to judge someone on the basis of how they dress but on how they act.
I've seen more kindness in girls who dressed like Lady Gaga than in girls who dressed like nuns.
I've had it up to my nose of sentences like: "if you dress like that you are asking for it". Does that mean that's ok for me to rip someone's pants off on the bases that they are already hanging past their behind and I would like to know how long the underwear are? (just kidding) Or is that not ok because boys will be boys?
Whose fault is it that girls these days feel like they have to be sexy in order to be popular? They didn't make this world, they found it and they are trying to survive through some fairly hard years.
Being a teenager is not easy and they don't need us to point and critic their wardrobe malfunctions, they need subtle guidance and people willing to laugh and teach their sons that just because she's wearing a miniskirt it is not ok to assume she wants you.
We need to teach our children to respect all people not just those wearing cardigans.
While visiting a friend I had the opportunity to bond with her 12 year old girl and I was so disappointed by what she told me.
She's very petite, the smallest one in her class. The girls and boys don't really talk to her because she's not very girly and now she has started wearing make up to fit in. Make up at 12, and I'm not talking lipgloss, I'm talking bronzer, blush, lipstick.. The works. She told me that the girls in her class spend their time perfecting their make up. Whose fault is it?! They didn't wake up on day and decided to do this, we allowed it. When I was talking to her I told her she has no need for make up, that make up is intended to hide and change the way we look, that she has perfect skin and doesn't need to cover it with bronzer and blush. She just looked at me like I didn't have a clue and she was right, I have not a clue as to what teenage girls have to deal with now but I remember what I had to deal with so, I opened up my extensive make up collection to her and started teaching her how to use it properly and how to treat her skin.
We can't sit on our high perch and judge, we don't have a clue about what goes on in high school now. We have to extend a friendly hand to these younger versions of us and guide them.