Change & New Beginnings
Change and new beginnings.
So the summer holidays are flying by and as exams results are in and it’s nearing the beginning of a new academic term I thought I’d blog about change and new beginnings.
With over 10 years experience of working with teenagers there is one thing 100’s found difficult… And that’s change!
As the old saying goes ‘the only thing that is constant in our lives is change’ it’s true and I know as adults we can struggle to accept that things inevitably alter, move on and go another way. The end of the summer can be as exciting as it is scary, new school, new year, new, new people, new environment and of course a more developed and older you. (Well Teen!)
I want to share something with you that I have shared with so many of the teens I’ve worked with over the years, and it’s something I found myself saying more to boys especially at the end of the term and the summer holidays are in sight and that’s….. Something magical happens over every summer holiday and it’s where amazing transformations happen. People you saw at the end of term can be unrecognisable on their return to school. For the pure and simple fact that they are growing up that bit and some a big bit more!
Communication is the key to helping your teenager understand and cope with change and new beginnings. Speaking and being open about choices, decisions or things that are happening or going to happen equips with some amazing like skills. There are many ways to help them understand the concept of change because we all have different learning styles or ways of absorbing and learning from experiences and information. So let’s look at three ways to help your teen cope with change and new beginnings…
- Reflective conversations – It’s always nice to talk about what they like and disliked about recent times to not only learn from events, people and themselves but to help them concluded that it’s time to move on or the reason for moving forward.
- Discussing and making plans about moving forward helps minimise anxieties and help them feel more in control of their own life and destiny (which of course is theirs to have and do). When making plans its helpful and important for them to way up the pro’s and cons as well as exploring all their options. Break things down, go take a look and broaden horizons!
- Always make sure they know that they have a home and somewhere safe to come back to. It’s the strength of your relationship that’s going enable them to shine and to feel like they can always come back and talk to you about most things! (Lets face it, even the best communicators in the world won’t know everything about their child. In fact it’s impossible to know everything about anybody!)
Communication really is key when it comes to helping them manage change positively as it help creates a space where they can come and ask for help. As well as knowing that even though we are all faced with the challenges of change they don’t always have to be so tough! So to all the new beginnings, make sure to celebrate the endings the progress and the achievements because to grow we need to explore and learn from our experiences.
So help them embrace the beauty of change and enjoy the new beginnings of life!
Parent & Teenager Coaching Specialist