I'm Sick of Apologizing for My C-section

I'm Sick of Apologizing for My C-section

Did you know that April is Cesarean Awareness month? I didn’t. I didn’t even know such a thing existed.

A little over two years ago I had a scheduled C-section. When I found out that my primary method of delivering Els was by C-section I was upset. I cried and felt like a failure. My body in my eyes was failing me and a C-section was the worst thing possible. I was naive and stupid for thinking that way. Now over two years later I blame the media and birth propaganda for making me feel like a failure and taking away some of the excitement of Els’ birth.

Yes I do believe there are to many unnecessary C-sections in this country, but who am I to judge how another woman brings new life into this world? It’s none of my business. It’s also unfair that women who have medically necessary cesareans need to preface their birth with this fact so that they aren’t judged. Even with Els being a 100% medically necessary C-section birth I still got negative responses. People {men and women} would give me their opinion on the matter. Telling me that there were things I could have done differently or tried to avoid the dreaded C-section.

Well I’m here now to tell everyone that my cesarean was great. It wasn’t planned and it wasn’t what I originally wanted, but it was fantastic. Why was it fantastic? Because without it I’m not sure if I would have brought a healthy baby home. So I’m thankful that I live in a country that has the medical technology and advanced techniques that allowed me to have a healthy delivery. And I’m tired of all of the flack women who have C-sections get just for having one. We are immediately judged and given the side eye. I’m done being judged and I’m ready to stand up for other women who are being judged and feeling bad about themselves because of it. No more.

Yes I know it’s dangerous, yes I know recovery is hard, yes I know that most people think the C-section rate in the US is to high, but you know what I don’t care. And it isn’t for anyone to judge how another woman became a mom. Also let’s be real here, it doesn’t matter how you give birth…the next week or two is hard regardless of how the baby came out.

No one should ever be ashamed or embarrassed about their birth story. Whether you delivered your baby vaginally or by a cesarean congratulations on becoming a mom. Welcome to the club of sleepless nights, constant worrying, and eternal limitless love


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