A Beginners Guide to Awesome Anal Sex

A Beginners Guide to Awesome Anal Sex

Go slowly. Use your fingers or a small anal toy (as long as it has a flanged base, this will prevent a not so sexy trip to the ER to retrieve a lost toy). Let it take as long as it takes to get comfortable and feel confident. If today is not the day, fine, you can try again another day.

Experiment with different positions. In seated position, you can try lowering yourself onto the cock and going at your own pace. If you’re in a doggie position, back up onto the cock. Feeling in control is another great way to alleviate anxiety and relax.

Push. While this may seem counter-intuitive, bearing down relaxes your muscles. Try it. When you press in or squeeze, your muscles tighten, when you bear down muscles ease. If you’re almost but not quite there, before giving up, try to push against the object entering your bottom. Pushing is another reason that doing a light anal douche can help you relax, you’ll be sure that nothing unexpected will be making an appearance.

Consider gloves. Gloves can prevent discomfort and scratching from ragged fingernails and provide a silky smooth surface that works great with lube. No oil-based lubes with latex gloves, as oil will degrade the glove. Plus, gloves make for simple clean up, just take’em off and toss’em. Women should be especially careful of using oil based lubes for anal sex; they tend to be thin and can drip into the vagina sending anal bacteria where it doesn’t belong.

Leading us right to just say no to ass-to-vaginal sex. Never, ever, ever go from anal sex to vaginal without using condoms and changing them in between orifices. Even with this precaution, washing the object that just came out of your butt after removing the condom is very much advisable before inserting said object into a vagina.

So if the thought of having something in your butt turns you on, go forth, get your lube, douche and butt plug ready, get excited, play with positions and take your time. Anal sex is extremely pleasurable for many men and women, it’s a definite don’t knock it till you’ve tried it activity. For a more detailed look at anal sex, check out the oh-so-fabulous Tristan Taormino’s Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women.

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