Ask4Recovery - How do I get out of the ‘I’m not good enough / I’m miserable’ mindset because of what I weigh?
Hello friends! Today’s ‘Ask’…
How do I get out of the ‘I’m not good enough / I’m miserable’ mindset because of what I weigh?
The reality is that this mindset has nothing to do with the weight. I have been down this road many times before thinking that by losing 5 or 10 or 15 pounds will solve all my problems. Having a flat stomach will make every woman I’ve met want me more. This is so far from the truth, yet our minds can rationalize and justify this and the obsessing over weight becomes a vicious spiral that takes us out of the moment and being the people we were truly put here to be.
I recently read the book ‘Women, Food, and God’ by Geneen Roth (I highly recommend it) and I wanted to highlight the words below:
When you stop struggling, stop suffering, stop pushing and pulling yourself around food and your body, when you stop manipulating and controlling, when you actually relax and listen to the truth of what is there, something bigger than your fear will catch you. With repeated experiences of opening and ease, you learn to trust something infinitely more powerful than a set of rules that someone else made up: your own being.
She hits on exactly what I want to convey on this topic. Until we are able to accept ourselves for who we are, internally, there will always be some type of distraction ‘separating’ us. From our weight, to not having enough money or the right job, or the right partner, and the list goes on. This is a destructive cycle that can be avoided at any moment we choose. By listening to our hearts, our souls, we can begin to break out of this cycle and allow for our souls to flourish in ways we never thought possible. I can assure you it attainable. I spent years engaging in my eating disorder; binging and purging and restricting. I am free from these behaviors now, one day at a time, and I have learned to trust something much more powerful than my disease and that is myself. With that comes a life beyond my wildest dreams.
How do you get out of the mindset of ‘I’m not good enough / I’m miserable’ because of your weight? What does your weight mean to you? Let us know and join the Ask4Recovery movement with me!